to women who have had an abortion? please answer?

Question

i'am not trying to give you a hard time nor judge you but if you would please answer me a question that i have been wondering about for a whil whay was thae main factor that made you to decide to have an abortion and not give the child up for adoption ? again i really mean no harm or to hurt you but i've been wondering that for awhile ..ty for you answers

ok i see because i ask a real question you belive i judge you? your very sad if so i asked a simple question and you got to be all you hate me crap if you dont like the question dont answer its real simple got it?

i was adopted and that why i wonder why my genetic mother let me go as ospposed to having an abortion ...got that you gd bulldykes?

Answer 1

I don't think you're judging anyone. I think your question is very valid especially under the circumstances. I personally don't agree with abortion however I do agree with these women who are saying that no one knows how they feel. Just like no one knows how I feel when I am desperate for a child, can't have my own and I read how many millions are being aborted. As far as giving up for adoption this is for TnA and KitKat. You can always have open adoption with someone so you can have whatever contact you want with that child. I personally would be so grateful to the person giving me their child to love that I would agree to any contact they may want to have. How could you not when someone is giving you the greatest gift you could ever recieve? I just feel there is no love in abortion and love on all sides with adoption.

Answer 2

My reason was timing. I was a single mother of a 5yr old. been divorced for 2 yrs. I get very very ill while I'm pregnant and there was no way I could have continued to work. My parents were living in another state and my father had just had a heart transplant so I could not ask them for help. At the time it was all I could do. I do not regret my decision, but I do feel that adoption should always be the first consideration when one is faced w/ an unwanted pregnancy.

Answer 3

Girls that are not ready for a baby are scared. They are scared of having to take care of a baby and scared of having to go through pregnancy and labor.
I had an abortion when I was 16. There was pressure from my boyfriend at the time, and I was scared of my parents finding out I was pregnant, I was scared of having to take care of a baby when I had no way to even take care of myself. I didnt know whether or not I could handle having the baby and then having to give that baby away. I thought that if I had the baby, he would end up with a mother who had no idea how to take care of him.
It was probably the hardest decision of my life, and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think "what if". Such is the consequences for my decision.

Answer 4

I haven't had an abortion but one of my friends did. She did it because she got pregnant by a guy she could never marry and she was humiliated. A while after her folks found out, they told her that they would have stood by her. She was also very young and wasn't thinking too straight.
Today, it doesn't have to be that way. There are a lot of ways to handle it. Adoption would be better than an abortion.
I hope this helps.

Answer 5

After the abduction to the mother planet, I was impregnated with one of the blue capsules and sent back to earth to .....

You obviously don't agree with abortion and want those that have been through it to justify ourselves to you. There are as many reasons as there are women...it's a deeply personal choice. You have no right to ask and less reason to judge. Adoption is no better choice than abortion. And having a kid you can't or won't raise is no better.

When one brings an unplanned child into this world, one must make a choice, sometimes they all look bad (1) have the baby and struggle, at least together (2) Adopt out the baby and struggle, apart, not knowing if the baby is ok..not all are ok (3)Abort and struggle with the choice, was it right.

You say you mean no harm or hurt, but you obviosly have no experience with the "choice" and adoption is your potential solution..."I just can't understand why someone would choose...please justify it for me...just wondering... for a while"

By the way talking about it just opens a deep festering wound, so do us a favor and "DON'T ASK! Its none of your business!

Answer 6

I had a large tumor on my right ovary and the Dr.'s couldn't tell me how it would or would not affect the fetus. this was years ago before they were as knowledgeable as they are today with testing. I got scared that the tumor would break and harm or deform the baby. It was the toughest decision ever!!!!

Answer 7

Would you want to carry a baby for 9 months and then hand it over to someone and most likely never know anything about him/her ever again? Adoption is a much harder thing to deal with then terminating a pregnancy.

Answer 8

i was 18 in an abusive relationship going to college and my mother said to me sometimes to save a life one must be given up and i was plainly wasn't ready and wasn't going to do it alone or be stuck with a man who abused me. I never felt so bad about myself but you know what my mother was right and many yrs later i have come to terms with my decision and obviously god( or whom ever the higher spirit) gave me another chance and forgave me or i wouldn't be where i am! hoe that helps whatever the scenario behind your question is.

Answer 9

i know someone that had one and her reason was that her husband was a cheater and had a ton kids with his ex and he was not supportive monetarily or time wise with her and she didn't think that having another kid with would be smart and just make things worse with her first child. that is still a sorry reason and i wouldn't do it but to each there own i guess. i hope this helps

Answer 10

Oh really? Sounds like judging to me. You have made up your mind and now you are going to judge the validity of the responses according to your values.

And the name calling just confirms it for me.

A woman's right to remove a clump of cells before it is a person able to feel pain, is her personal choice. It's extremely painful and the aftereffects last for many weeks, just like childbirth. For those reasons, women are not running around using it as birth control or an easy way out.

Don't you dare use these womens' answers against them.

Molly, good news! There are many disabled kids, mixed race newborns, older children and sibling groups waiting to be adopted. Unless you will only accept a healthy white newborn?

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