how can i gain confidence and build on a positive image?

Question

as i know im a nice person but lack confidence and find i hide from people and am not very open

Answer 1

You need to venture inward, get to know your true self. Some some quality time alone and start to meditate. Imagine the person you want to be and make a list of the steps you need to make to achieve that. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, you're going in the right direction. You need to do one thing that scares you every day - go up and talk to a stranger, wear something new that's sexy, just try new things.

Going to the gym is a great way of becoming confident in yourself, as it boosts your immune system, you will sleep better and feel a lot better about yourself. This in turn will manifest into what people see in you and make you more approachable and open...

You can learn confidence - remember that. If you are prepared to change, then you will.

Answer 3

I've got one word for you. . .shy. It's okay not everyone is suppose to be an outspoken person. You are a rare flower in the middle of a wild variety of roses. You appear to be concealed by the others brilliance and beauty, yet you are what makes the patch of flowers magnificent. Because of your rare different qualities you stand out, in a good way of course. You may not follow the crowd of loud outgoing personalities but you are soft, quite and reserved. Sure there are people that might not notice you but you are not alone in the brunch. Now many people would say "come out of your comfort zone and be bold and daring". I will agree but only to an extent. To come out of your comfort zone you must be willing not to fall back on your comforts. I'll say this take it one step at a time. I was scared of people too once but I would go to someone I knew very well and talked to them until I was comfortable speaking. Your confidence resides in how you view yourself, it is said that we are our worse critics and that is so true, you have to build yourself up by being very positive you cannot allow yourself to fall victim of negativity, it's not healthy. Nevertheless you are are the one holding the key it is up to you to use it or store it away.

Answer 4

You know what I do? I remind myself that even the people who SEEM confident on the outside, have fears, weaknesses, insecurities and even portray lack of self confidence at times. I also try to feel confident, and try to portray it through my words and actions. That way, not only does my confidence increase, but people will also be impressed and think of me as a very confident person!

P.S. Saying your opinions out loud and openly portrays self confidence. Remember that it is your opinion and that it should be respected and valued. As long as you understand that, and with time, it will soon become natural...Bieng honest and sharing ideas and opinions openly is very impressive.

Answer 5

Hi, Do some exercise,even come out of the house and run for 5 to 10 minutes,,,sport gives a lot of confidence (that's why they say spirit of sportmanship) .

Just remember life is precious ,we are here to know who we are ,purpose of our life and on earth to reach our capacity to serve family and humanity.

Also tell yourself ants never give up so why should we.

Australia, Adelaide

Answer 6

I know how you feel...cuz i feel the same way.
I'd suggest maybe to build up on the confidence and positive image...work out and get cut : )
you will definately feel more confident if someone begins to hit on you

Answer 7

Joanne..it all starts with the girl in the mirror...start taliking to yourself..(just dont answer youself..lol) and you will be amazed at the confidence starting to ooze from you. Try and talk to alot of people...there is nothing wrong with being alittle shy, but if it dictates your life then it is cause for concern...this mya sound like a cliche, but just be yourself..im sure people will love you...but they cant do that if you dont love yourself!

Answer 8

i have to say i'm the same...or i was....you know what i did? i just started saying hello to anyone and everyone at school, and if they didn't say hello back, i called them a 'snob' in a joking manner and they'd say hello back...it shocked them, it was a nice surprise that when you started 'acting' like a confident person, you actually start feeling like one. so start 'acting' like a confident person, convince yourself until you actually believe it yourself....

you know when people tease you and say things about you, you start believing it...this is just the same except in a good way.

for further reference, search the Bible... It says, "Do not throw away your confidence, it will be richly rewarded..." Hebrews 10:35
God is your source of everything...including confidence.