How do I stay a normal, balanced and calm inidvidual whilst trying to conceive?

Question

I am 26 and my husband and I started to try and conceive two weeks ago. Since then I seem to have become obsessed with it! It is constantly in my thoughts and everywhere I go I see babies! My husband and I haven't told anyone that we're trying and I'm finding this hard as I would like to confide in a friend and then I could chew her ear off as my husband is getting fed up of me wittering on about diet, ovulation etc! But he feels its best not to tell anyone, as we'll be under less pressure.

I am also feeling anxious as I have recently stopped taking dianette and haven't had a period yet. I think this is normal but I know I probably should've waited until things settled down and I had regular periods...but I'm too excited/impatient. I was thinking that I'll try and chill and not do a test if I don't get a period before the end of the month..is this too soon? I'd love some tips from some people who have been or are going through this!

I mean that I would do a test at the end of this month..sorry wrote that in error.

Answer 1

Wow this is familiar!! I remember just reading books about concieving, making sex almost a chore and just OBSESSING. I dont know how to stop it, except confide in someone other than your husband about it, so he's not the only one supporting you (hard for him Im sure). I took a test every month I was trying, sometimes two.... A little extensive but it was the only thing to put my mind at ease. I dont know if this really helped but just want you to know that you are NOT alone. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean. When we started TTC, I felt like I had a secret I wanted to tell everyone. It's only been about 3 months, and I am driving myself crazy already. We both need to settle down, and let things happen. Since we've been trying, my previously normal cycles which were always 28 days to the minute (and I ovulate day 13-14) have now gone haywire and I'm sure it's because I'm stressing. Stress will definitely not help! Exercise, take your prenatal vitamins, have a lot of sex, and relax! Good luck!

Answer 3

must be that your pregnant, I had this way of subject with my 1st son and it became out i replaced into pregnant...... i'm additionally 40 4 and ttc with my bf who's 36 (I have already got 2 sons from my 1st marriage) given my age as quickly as we desperate to attempt for slightly one, I went to my GP for some hassle-unfastened assessments, FSH tiers, and to make sure i'm nonetheless ovulating etc, the assessments all got here back fairly solid consequences and my GP reckons there is no reason I won't conceive, he additionally recommended me that there are an fairly intense % of ladies in there 40's having healthful pregnancies and toddlers, so i does no longer hear to those telling you which you're too previous, if that's real for you and your substantial different, then decide for it!!!!...... may be a solid thought so you might bypass on your GP just to have straight forward assessments finished and positioned your strategies at relax on the same time as your ttc...... solid luck and a lot n a lot of toddler airborne dirt and mud to you

Answer 4

Hi,I know exactly what your going through as im going through the same thing.I even quit my job at a supermarket as i was sick of seeing people coming through with their babies and i havent fell pregnant yet and ive been trying for 3 years.Its the hardest thing.I hate it when people say"stop thinking about it and it will happen when its ready,Dont stress"
That usually comes from people who already have kids!!!
I've just been to the doctors and got clomid so im waiting for periods which are due tomorrow but by the way i feel i think theyre on there way.
Im willing to talk to you more if you want,you can email me,im willing to listen and share my experiences with you.
kelly NSW

Answer 5

If you're all stressed out it'll be harder to get pregnant. You should find a form of exercise that mellows you out. For me it was swimming. I was a bundle of nerves until I discovered swimming.

Find something, yoga or ballet classes, anything that is exercise and soothing.

Relax, babies are everywhere especially when you're ready to have one. It happens to all of us, so relax, get exercise and be sure to track your periods and ovulation.

Don't just think, okay 14 days after the start of my period is when I ovulate. That's not the case. You can have an egg ready for ovulationas soon as 12 days after your period. Your egg only lives for 24 hours, but sperm can live inside of you for days. SO have sex before you think you're ovulating and again and again until ovulation is over.

To calculate ovualtion I recommend you go to babycenter.com and use their online ovulation calculator.

Chill out, start taking your prenatal vitamins now (Target makes good over-the-counter ones), get some exercise and track your periods.

And for the love of god, take your prenatal vitamin with food, vitamins need to be taken with a food in order to be properly absorbed. Lots of women claim prenatal vitamins make them sick, but if they took them with a full meal and a glass of milk chances are they would not upset their stomach. I have NEVER had a problem with them, and always took them with a full meal and a glass of milk.

Answer 6

A simply pregnancy test will solve all ur problem...........dont bugg others...........