My daughter just told me she does not wish to see me anymore. This is due to the fact that my Ex Girlfriends daughter is living here helping me with my other kids. (I know sounds bad already but I was put in this situation, not by choice but by cheaters) I have to have someone here so I can work, I am a OTR Driver gone fr 5 days at a time. (No I cannot get another job, none pay what it takes to pay the min amount just for bills) Everything blew up when she stole 15.00 from my Es' dau purse this weekend, and was caught. I am at wit's end. She even accused me of sleeping with her and getting her prego (she is but not by me). Any good advice on what to do???
2007-03-05 00:20:25 · 5 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow! You seem to have a large pile of stuff happening there! I am also an OTR man myself, but without your dilemma (thankfully). If it were me in your shoes, I see two options here....1st-try to find another person to assist you in looking after your children while you are on the road (I know, harder than it sounds!) 2nd-You might just want to let your daughter do as she wishes and not see you again for a while (been there and done that too!) She will finally (or should I say eventually) see that you are doing the best that you can in your situation, and will start to visit and talk to you again. I dont know the age of your daughter, but with my daughter it took almost 3 years of us not talking before she realised that she had made an error in judgement and started talking to me again. Yes it will be hard on you in the beginning, but you also have other children you need to be thinking about here. It sounds like this daughter at least has someplace to stay (other than with you) whereas the rest of your children dont. You need to focus on them, and yourself, and what is best for all concerned at the moment. And, is it possible that this one daughter is getting some misinformation supplied to her by an unhappy ex (say, her mother)? That was the case in my situation-the other parent was telling lies about me and my lifestyle, and the daughter chose to believe the lies rather than talk to me about it. Might be the same sort of thing in your case as well. Good luck! Be Good; Be Strong; Be at Peace.
2007-03-05 00:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably not even that she doesnt want to see u anymore it sounds like she is screaming for some attention and is being selfish. Unless she plans to take your ex girls daughters place and help out with the other children then i would say let her stand strong with her decision ( it probably wont last long) I dont see why u should change your living situation around when it is working for u. You daughter will be ok eventually and see that her words were unnecessary. U are helping the girl and she is helping u what is wrong with that. It's always speculation from people who are on the outside looking in but u know whats going on in your home and that is all that matters
2007-03-05 00:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the phrase 'Nobody is indespensible", meaning anyone can be replaced in employment. etc?
Alas dear man, you made the statement that you had no choice in her staying to look after your children and you were cheated. Well, sorry dearest, you are wrong, very very wrong, you DID have a choice. Yup you did have a choice and you chose to have this young women to look after your kids.
If your choice has affected your relationship with your own daughter then I am sorry to say then it is now for you to rectify this problem which you caused. You made a bad judgement in allowing your exs daughter to stay in your life.
I can see why your daughter feels the way she does and I do not blame her. But its not to late, all you have to do is find another babysitter. Your daughter will respect you more if you do..
Believe me when I say that to accept a fathers new girlfriend is one thing but to accept their children is another and now that you have ended your relationship with your ex, your daughter probably expects you to end it with your exs children as well, and this is not uncommon,,,this you did not do.
So now you have to take responsibilty for your actions and make amends with your daughter. Never mind the aquasations about the babysitter being pregnant, that can be proven with DNA, worry about your daughter.
Its not just about proving you are not the babies father, its about the choices you make in life. Make the choice dear man, its your daughter or the babaysitter.
2007-03-05 01:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EX GIRLFRIEND'S DAUGHTER?????? man what r u thinking about...its EX it means she is not there anymore so why would her daughter be?????? just finish it out with her do anything to get rid of her and get ur daughter to live with u she can help with ur kids too i'm sure she wont refuse it...
2007-03-05 00:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by dimaabdin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's mad that she got caught stealing and this is her way of lashing out. Give her some time and she'll get over it.
2007-03-05 00:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋