I need good, solid, valid reasons why it's a bad idea for my 19 yr old step-daughter to move in with her 24 yr old boyfriend. She's away at college and met this yahoo of a guy whom her mother and I really don't care for. I realize she's 19 and can make her own decisions, and I'll just have to live it, but please help me come up with some really good, decision swaying reasons why she should not do this. Also reasons why the 5 yr gap in their ages is not a good thing either. I'm really trying to help her from making really stupid life mistakes, and I really need some ammo to drive the point home. I have my reasons, but they don't seem to hold any weight.
Any and all answers considered. Can you please please help me?
2007-03-05 00:00:44 · 3 answers · asked by Jim C 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Unfortunately, any good, solid, valid you give her will likely be dismissed or ignored. What won't be ignored, however, is if you're supporting her financially, you can tell her that you're not sending her any more money. That you don't agree with what she's doing and won't support it period. It'd sure be nice to ask her that some day when she has kids would she agree to her daughter doing the same thing or would she want her to just delay serious dating until her education is done because that's your best chance to be focused. But it would probably be ignored too. Basically all that you can do is tell her how you feel and not support her financially. I sure don't envy you. Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by lawolifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The five year gap in their ages is no big thing and will get even less so as they grow older. What can be troublesome, however, is when we see our off springs making decisions to get with people, who as you say, are "yahoos." The problem is though, that when people believe they are in love there is nothing you can tell them and they will have to get "burnt" before they realize their mistakes. Hopefully they will find out before they have invested so much of their emotions and time and even good name. The thing is that people never believe what happened to others is going to happen to them. Pray (if you are a religious person) and hope for the best.
2007-03-05 08:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 19, she has to make her own mistakes and learn her own way. You need to back off and let her live her own life.
2007-03-05 08:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋