I need good, solid, valid reasons why it's a bad idea for my 19 yr old step-daughter to move in with her 24 yr old boyfriend. She's away at college and met this yahoo of a guy whom her mother and I really don't care for. I realize she's 19 and can make her own decisions, and I'll just have to live it, but please help me come up with some really good, decision swaying reasons why she should not do this. Also reasons why the 5 yr gap in their ages is not a good thing either. I'm really trying to help her from making really stupid life mistakes, and I really need some ammo to drive the point home. I have my reasons, but they don't seem to hold any weight.
Any and all answers considered. Can you please please help me?
2007-03-04 23:59:02 · 3 answers · asked by Jim C 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
The bigger fuss you make, the better he'll look to her.The age gap isn't an issue in this day and age, it's only 5 years. The only reason you give for your concern is that you and your wife don't like the guy. Unless he's plying her with drugs or pimping her out to his friends, I don't see any problems here.
2007-03-05 00:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you've stated, she is an adult and can make her own decisions. The ONLY influence you have is financial. I assume you are paying for her college education? What about other minor expenses? Your only option is holding that over her with no longer helping her with her expenses but you also risk losing her and possibly having her drop out of college. I suggest you let her do what she feels she has to do. If any EXTRA expenses arrive out of the ordinary, don't pay them. Then you can tell her if she is willing to live like a married couple then she needs to learn the responsibilities of doing so. You will only help her with the original agreement of her college expenses. If she is a smart girl, in time, she'll recognize the Yahoo for what he is and drop him. At 19, she has a way to go with college and many other men of maturity she will meet in those years to come. Just hang in there.
2007-03-05 08:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it a rest junior.. It's outta your hands now. You & I were both 24 so we know why he needs a 19 y.o. girl to live with him. My take is you're jealous of him getting what you really desire from her.
2007-03-05 08:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by The kissman 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋