2007-03-04 23:57:30 · 8 answers · asked by free and gentle flower 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Personality is the outward manifestation of our internal thought patterns and external behavior patterns. It's not who we are, but a component of who we are...more the WAY we are, our personal style.
We aren't driven by our personality 100% of the time. We can act outside our personality if we choose. If we concentrate and stretch outside our comfort zone. For example, an extreme introvert can force himself to make an important speech to a large crowd, even though the experience will be very uncomfortable, if he has enough ability and motivation to make the effort. But afterwards, he will retreat back into his comfortable introvert personality patterns.
Most of the time, people stay in their comfort zones, thereby reinforcing the behavior patterns related to their personality, ingraining it deeper.
But you can consciously develop your personality by operating outside your comfort zone often enough and over an extended period of time, until new neural pathways grow and develop. Then new behavior patterns will join the mix of your personality.
For example, the first 30 years of my life, my personality had many of the characteristics of a poet...intensely sensitive, idealistic, spontaneous.
But then, I found myself in management, learning and performing logical troubleshooting, problem solving, decision making, organization, planning and controlling operations. After many years of that, my personality added a new dimension. I became more balanced. The poet and the manager now exist in the same person. I must say, I like the result.
You can do it to, but I must say, you have to persist, go against the grain of your own tendencies for years to pull it off. Many do this...just look at young people who go into the service for three years, then come out with evolved personality traits. But man, you gotta have some kind of motivation to do this!
2007-03-05 00:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not develop your personality, you just adapt to society for satisfaction of some needs. Any group that you are linked to or you are in for the satisfaction of some needs will ask you directly or indirectly (you see at them and need to adapt for appreciation and evolution in that group) to do things or to accept ideas that will automatically create neural links in your brain and will create another part of your personality. This can transform in just memories trough time...if you change the group...but the ideas stay there and in the same situations that will come linked to the same type of group will help you. So the personality you develop is an adaptation to circumstances that come in your life. Even when you read a book you read it because the subject is interesting in the way that will satisfy your need for knowledge in a specific social group or will make you understand how you can resolve something or how you have to be to adapt.
2007-03-05 09:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Trufas M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your heart and your values
you might be the kindest person in the world but you also won't put up with some one dumping on you all the time
your knowing of right and wrong helps your personality too
your feeling about things are what you should let guide you
but along the way and people you meet always ask your self do i want to be a leader or a follower?
you want to be your self
a leader
knida like if they jumped off a bridge would you
stick to what your heart tells you about you
2007-03-05 08:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by country-girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what monkey see what monkey do
so is important for parents to show good social behavior in front of their children for their good adaptation
do not allow the maid to supervision children from age 4 to 12
that the time personality are printed into their minds
2007-03-05 08:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by kimht 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A personality is what you are, if you mean change your personality then work at it, practice, make a goal then achieve it.
2007-03-05 08:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the concepts that shape ur personaltiy are :::
awareness
reasoning
communication
will
humour
accepting ur mistakes
strenthen dese n u'll have a impressive persona
2007-03-05 08:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depend on your background and your surroundings.
2007-03-05 08:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Eli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. read gud books
2. think high, look low
3. talk 2 wise fools
4. lollllzz depends wat kinda personality u wanna have...
2007-03-05 08:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Gem-in-i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋