ok heres the story i am remarried to anouther woman! my exwife is married to a old friend of mine i have not been with my exwife in 4 years! we had a bad past! and my wife now has had a bad past with her too but yet my exwife still wants to be friends and hang out with me and my wife! and i truly dont believe it would be a good idea so i wrote her and told her i dont want to be friends and hang out because i dont want to put my wife in a situation with my exwife and i told her i feel out of place! my exwife thinks its because my wife thinks we want each other and that is not the case at all! so should i say im sorry go on with my life or what? i just dont know what to do!
2007-03-04 23:56:02 · 23 answers · asked by getagrip_25301 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have no kids together!
2007-03-05 04:57:19 · update #1
My personal oppinion is No, its one thing to be friendly when u see each other its another to be "friends".. and i think your wifes needs should always come first, so it should be left up to her.. Its extremely hard to sit acrossed the table from someone that has had such an intimate relationship such as u and your x wife, there will be memories surely to come up as its normal for people who have known each other for along time, and she will feel like the 3rd wheel, and it will be painful to watch the two of u laugh, and horse around.. which comes with being friends.. i think if u value ur marriage , u will avoid any situation that can cause , jealousy, resentment, and pain, and i think that u need to leave the past, right where it is, in the past. Your x wife, will always have a superior presence, and she knows it..being the first wife, and ur new wife should never feel second to anyone...and its definately bound to happen.. i think u need to leave well enough alone....
2007-03-05 00:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your EX is just that..Leave it that way.Your exwife is your past I suggest you live in the present & future with your current wife.If your current wife is not comfortable with the situation then you should respect that.And why would you want to be hanging out with your exwife that is not normal...It is one thing to have to be friendly with an ex because of children but that does not sound like the case here because you have not mentioned any children with your ex..It almost sound's like you are still emotionally attached to your ex and that is definately not a good thing because that will only ruin your current marriage..Good Luck to you.
2007-03-05 08:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your first instinct was right. If you and your wife have that much bad history with your ex move on. It seems like it would make both you and your current wife uncomfortable, so why put you both in that position? Let your exwife think what she wants as to why you don't want to. It might make her feel better to think your wife thinks there's an attraction instead of the real reason.
2007-03-05 08:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is obvious, if you are questioning it and your wife and her " had a bad past" then you definitely shouldn't hang around with her. For any reason what so ever.
I mean put your self in your wives shoes, how would you like it if your wife wanted to hang out with her ex husband? Just wouldn't seem right would it?
Now if you have kids with her then you must have some kind of contact with her, but you should have nothing more than that.
2007-03-05 08:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by aluu101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children then I would say yes! because it will do your children well to see their parents being kind to each other. If you have no children then don't do it, I would sort of question her motivation for wanting to hang out with you, Your ex wife is in your past and you should leave it there, unless you want to lose your current wife.
2007-03-05 08:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Do not be friends with the ex and don't hang out with her. I don't even understand why she want to do that, it sounds very strange, and I damn sure wouldn't want to hang out with my husbands ex wife. If you don't have children together, there is no reason to even communicate. If you do have children, the only communication you share should be about the children, nothing else.
Listen to your wife's wishes. SHE is the one in your life now.
2007-03-05 08:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can only make Friends when u are happy with that freindship and that will be a true freindship so if your heart is not there just forget about it , it will give u stress and u dont need to feel uncomfortable when u are making a decision, its good to be true cos u cannot betray yourself to make someone happy while u are no longer involve with her.
Now u need to focus on your marriage and what u did its good , to speak your mind
2007-03-05 08:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by NUNU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your ex-wife is trying to force herself back into your life - it will eventually cause problems between you and your current wife, rather let her stay away... (unless there are children in the picture, it wouldn't do any harm to be amicable towards her). Nope, not a good idea to let her back into your circle ...
2007-03-05 08:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't put your current wife in a uncomfortable position you should just keep your distance with your ex wife why borrow trouble because you soon will have some if you let your ex back in your life to hang out.
2007-03-05 08:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not good to be friends with you ex-wife but if she want to suck your c o c k then that's okay, but no more than twice a week. Make sure you take lots of pictures.
2007-03-05 08:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋