My friend suspects that her boyfriend is a gay, because he is not sexually agressive as her former boyfriends.
2007-03-04 23:50:42 · 8 answers · asked by shebooms 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sexual aggressivity doesn't define one's sexual orientation.
2007-03-04 23:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
"sexually agressive" like ripping off your clothes on the porch of your house on your first date...? Hey, some men like to go slowly, I mean my example is a bit on the high side but I am not usually in an extreme hurry when I go out with a girl and want more than a one-night stand! If you like a bit more action you might even have to initiate the first step, some men are like that, they like when the woman takes control. Have fun with your new boyfriend, and explore his many sides!
2007-03-05 09:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Effendi R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That does not determine whether he is gay.
A lot of reasons account for a man not being sexually agressive:
Not feeling 'adequate' in the size department.
Not really being all that into sex
Not really liking their partner
Feeling as though their partner is too good for them
Thinking too much (stress is a big factor in male dysfuction)
A bridge between sex and bad emotions
For a guy, sex is one of those things they feel obligated to do, but for a woman should these things arise, they just don't want to have sex. And yes a guy will have sex even though one of these things affect him because he would not want to make the partner in his life feel 'unwanted'.
Other factors would have to come into play for him to be ruled as gay. Such as does he like to still go to clubs, but doesn't like to dance? Does he watch certain programs (yes, some gay men watch certain programs because they are trying to get hints on how to pick up others - like alot of the rest of society). Does he only hang around one other particular guy and not a crowd? What types of pornos does he watch (you'd be surprised)? Does he pull away from his girl when walking down the street and no women are present (clue to women ... a man pulls away from you walking arm in arm and you should be alarmed)?
Think about these things and look for other signs ... don't tell her to dump a man she likes because he's not always jumping on her. Tell her to dump him for multiple reasons and then he'll be able to understand.
2007-03-05 10:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by entregan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make blind guess anymore. You can't get the accurate answer.
The best way is ask him directly. Although it will be a little bit embrrass, it is the straight forward way to solve the problem.
If he is, then at least can seperate peacefully and save time.
If he isn't , then you can solve your problem in your head.
2007-03-05 08:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Notorious Guy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all the shoes work the same way. Do not conclude before she is sure.
2007-03-05 08:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by newsundersky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant get it.
if he is a gay how can he be your boy friend, you know when you say "boyfriend," it implies already something.
the surest way is to ask him "will you lick it, my thing"
if he hesitates, he is may be .
2007-03-05 08:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
bye a playgirl magazine and dump it somewhere, were he can find it. dont say anything. if you ketck him gawking at the hot hung hunks in it, then you got a gay boyz on your hands. if you go threw with it and spott him reading it dont blow up. handlle it quietly and, tell him too go find his gay boyz friends. keep your cool.
2007-03-05 07:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
That doesn't mean anything. Maybe he just has more respect for her.
2007-03-05 07:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋