She left her sick elderly husband of aprox 10 years. They had a post nuptial for their childrens inheritance issues. When she left, she left behind, the majority of her things in the home (the house that he had owned going into the marriage, he had it over 40 years prior) she and has only come by to pick up a few things here and there, usually clothing. She left all the furniture that she had before she married him and he has had no objections to her getting her things out. She has filed for divorce and has not submitted her expectations for settlement. He husband is confused on her motive for leaving all of her things untill after the negotiations. What do you think she is planning to do? Help, he is overwhelmed with the betrayal.Thanks for your input!
2007-03-04 21:45:28 · 7 answers · asked by stu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be on the safe side of any possible motives...make sure the locks are changed, document her comings & goings and what is taken, and never let her in there alone.
She may or may not have any motives, just cover butt!
2007-03-05 00:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by MrsJ S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As so little information as been put forth in this story, it could be almost like another Anna Nichol Smith Story...Sorry to the wife if this is not the case, but is the old husband sick, maybe confused from medical reasons?
IF so, this is disgusting and maybe there are extra plots in the Bahamas or I know there is several plots in Texas ready for some action. Seems as she is not worried by taking what belongs to her personally, there is a goodly estate waiting to be distributed somewhere soon along the road.
As far as his plea " Help, he is overwhelmed with the betrayal." well that is easy! Get a new will, set the bounds and any children that are his and hers, keep them safe with a guardian other than the mother and give the wife a settlement for each year she was in the marriage. Her children from other fathers are not owed money from this man which is just goes with good saying, they have already got enough I would suppose through the years anyway. STOP THE MADNESS!!! Set the Lady up with Howard Stearn and between the two of them, go fishing for another older man in the Bahamams.. Sorry to make light on this money grabbing matter, but tis a joke to have brought it up now.
So to who wrote the question, watch Court TV daily and all the TV Talk shows.....GET THE WILL CHANGED NOW!!!
Keep his properties safe for real family, please I beg you.
Sincerely,
epoole
2007-03-04 22:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by epoole59 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that she just wants out and will do anything to stay out and away from this marriage. She is unhappy and I personally do not feel that she has any motive whatsoever. I am sure the lawyers will tell her what to do and what to go for and she will either agree to it or she wont as this will be her choice. He needs to get a good lawyer and be ready for whatever comes his way in all of this. Good luck to him. He also needs to call or cantact her and ask her for himself why she felt she had to leave the marriage like this. She just may tell him why if he asks her. Maybe she can not emotionally handle his sickness and it bothers her to see him this way as she may not want to be a widow. I understand he feels betrayed BUT there has to be a reason that she has left. I am sure there is another side to this story as well.
2007-03-04 22:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only guess, and unless you ask her, then all you are going to get are guesses, but I will give it my best shot.
Sick and elderly husband, meaning she was his full-time carer? Maybe it was all too much for her.....did she get any breaks from looking after her husband.....who cared for the carer?.....did she get any respite? I think all these are very relevant questions. Maybe she feels terrible that she failed him and that is the reason she hasnt picked up any of her things. Maybe its guilt that has made her leave everything. Maybe she would feel 10 times worse if she got everything she owned and left him all in one go.
She is probably burnt out from all the caring and just needed to get away....she probably didnt care about the material possessions at that time.....all she needed was some much needed respite. Some women are not cut out for caring for the elderly, even if it is their husband. I believe she probably still loves him, but cannot be his live-in nurse any more. I dont think she should be condemned for feeling like this....and Im sure that is probably what she is thinking others will be thinking of her.
I care for people with disabilities....its tough work caring for someone who is totally dependent on you for their care, their toileting, their showering, their feeding....I do an 8 hour shift and I am stuffed after it, but at least I can go home and tend to my own needs. I dont know if the husband needed a lot of care or only a little, but maybe she felt her needs were being totally overlooked. It is very common for a wife/carer to burn out very quickly and more people need to understand what is involved with caring for a sick and elderly person.....his wife is a human being with her own set of needs and if these needs were being ignored and she was expected to totally concentrate on her husbands needs, then it only stands to reason it is only going to be time until she burns out.....I suggest that is what has happened here, but without asking her, you will never know. I think the material possessions being left behind doesnt mean much....I think the whole reason she left was because she just couldnt go on being her husbands 24hr a day, 7 day a week carer....it puts a lot of stress on anyone being responsible for the daily needs of anyone.
I dont know the whole situation, and maybe she did get a break from caring for her husband, but I wonder if it was enough for her......obviously not......has anybody thought about what stress this woman would have been going through?....or was the focus entirely on the sick and elderly husband? Wives arent saints, sometimes they just cant cope and in this womans case I think the easiest way out of it all was just to leave and to hell with the material possessions......she just couldnt cope, and she is probably feeling guilty......ask her next time you see her, thats the only way to stop your confusion.
Take care
2007-03-04 22:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving it all in one place makes it easier to try and get the lot.The husband needs to make sure he has records of what was his before the relationship started and how he has provided for her over the term of te relationship. She can ask for so much by just being a housewife, she doesn't have to work to be considered as having put in her due share. It could also be that she has simply has enough. She may not want any reminders for her own reasons. Possibly, she has moved on to someone else and doesn't need any of her old possessions.
2007-03-04 21:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She left her things there because she probably does not know what she is doing yet. Maybe she doesn't have anywhere to bring her stuff? Or maybe she doesn't want those things anymore? Or feels guilty about leaving so she is leaving everything?
2007-03-04 22:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wanted out bad enough and the materials things don't matter to her. She's ready to get a divorce and walk away.
2007-03-04 23:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋