What are some ways to remember a miscarried baby?

Question

I've already named my miscarried baby and I was wondering if you all had any other suggestions. I don't have any ultra sound pictures.

I kept my pregnancy tests with all my kids too.

I was 10 weeks along and IT WAS A LIFE and a baby, No matter what anyone else says. A life doesn't begin after it's born. It begins the moment he or she is conceived. And as far as I'm concerned, every life is precious and worth remembering.

Answer 1

Here visit this site they will enter your baby in the book of life and you can get a certificate in memory of your baby. My condolences.

Answer 2

Oh dear I misunderstood your question. I thought you wanted to induce a miscarriage instead of a planned abortion. I'm so sorry! How many weeks were you pregnant? I have never heard of a dead fetus that did not come out spontaneously. Sometimes in very early pregnancy when you miscary it is possible that the body re-absorbs the embryo, but that is only the first month or so. I'm sure that any health insurance would cover d&c as a result of a miscarriage as this is often a necessary aftercare. By the way, the term 'miscarry' refers to the unborn baby dying in the womb, so technically you already have miscarried. Didn't you have any cramping or bleeding in those past 5 weeks? I would at least go see your doctor and ask for medical advice. If this has totally gone unnoticed it could be that you were in the beginning of your pregnancy. Good luck...

Answer 3

Dear Cassidy,
Hi there sweetie. I want to tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. I never had a miscarriage although I did have a molar pregnancy and there was actually no baby, tho in my mind I had thought of it that way. It was hard enough to deal with, I cannot imagine how much you must hurt.
I wanted to say how sorry I am for the unbelievably ugly, ignorant answer that you got from that other person. I was shocked when I read it and I can not imagine how it must have made you feel. I would not be surprised if it were a man pretending to be a woman, it is hard to believe that a woman could be that unfeeling and uninformed about the development of a baby.
I do pregnancy counseling and have significant training on this subject. Please know that I am not giving you this information to in anyway make you feel worse but rather to validate your feelings. At ten weeks the fetus is a perfectly formed, although tiny, baby. Every organ is present and the heart is beating steadily, the liver is making blood and the kidneys function. By 8 1/2 weeks your baby has fingerprints, eyelids and the palms of his hands are sensitive to touch. At 9 weeks fingernails form and thumb sucking occurs. At ten weeks the baby's body is sensitive to touch and she can sqint, frown and pucker up her brow, tho she is about the size of a thumb.
Have you ever seen the tiny golden feet that are often used to represent the Right to Life movement? Those are a perfect, life sized replica of a fetus at ten weeks. How could anyone look at those tiny little feet with their perfect wee toes and not see a baby? A tiny baby no doubt but none the less a baby.
You have every right to mourn the loss of your baby. You have every right to name that little person. You are a mother and you lost your baby. Your body did not kill it. That is an absurd statement and one made in ignorance. No doubt there was some grave abnormality that caused your little one to die, you may never know what it was but a mothers body does not kill her child. Something went wrong and it will undoubtedly never happen again, for some reason this little life was just not meant to be.
Other than that one ugly answer that you received, all of the suggestions were good ones. I really liked the one about planting a rose bush. Planting a small pine tree would be a good idea also, they grow so quickly that your future children will be able to sit under it someday!
If you would like you can order the "Precious Feet" that I mentioned, they would have special significance for you since you lost your baby at ten weeks. They are available at
www.hh76.com They are very inexpensive and are little lapel pins. I wear one to show my dedication to the unborn, my determination to speak for those who are too small to speak for themselves. But for you they could represent the baby that you lost.
I would like to leave you with one last thought. I know, as a mother, that one child can never take the place of another. Still, someday, when your body is full with the weight of a new baby, when you hold your newborn baby in your arms, your heart will begin to heal. The pain will lessen and in the eyes of your newborn child you will find the light that will lift the darkness that is your pain. Life and love are the ultimate healing tools. There will always be a tug at your heartstrings when you remember the little one that you lost but it will become a bittersweet pain when it is joined by the laughter and the joy of your other children. If my words were hugs you would know how much I care and how sorry I am for your loss.
((((Love and Blessings)))
Lady Trinity~

Answer 4

First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. I never miscarried, but had to give up my first daughter for adoption. It was supposed to be an open adoption, but not all worked out because it was done by a private lawyer. I never got photos, or anything else like I'm supposed to. I went and got a tattoo. Make it symbolic. Mine is a sunflower(favorite flower/state flower of where she was born), and it has her name and birth date in it. You can put it where ever, and if you don't want people to see, put it somewhere they won't. I have mine on my shoulder where I can hide it if I want. If you don't want to personalize it you don't have to, it can be big or small. It's completely up to you. My condolences and wish that everything is working out for you.

Answer 5

I planted a rose bush, in my favorite color. This way each year as it blooms I have a little memory of what might have been. I also say a prayer each year for my baby in heaven.(I know she is looking over her sister and brothers) It has been 18 years and tending to the rose bush the first year was the answer to get me through the first few tender months. Now I have 3 more kids, 12, 10, and 2 I have been truly blessed. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

ok let me first say that obviously kennie has never experienced this or she never woulda posted something about moving on and giving the name to another baby because it was just a fetus.....i have been through this myself..i lost my baby at 19 weeks...and she was a baby and she does have a name, i had the chaplain (im military at an overseas base) come to the hospital and bless her before they took her away.....i have a small keepsake box that i put a poem in that i wrote for her and some other things like my U/S pics and stuff.....and a pair of pink booties. when i move back to the US this year and get a house i plan to plant a dogwood tree(symbolic of life/hope in japan where i was when it happened) in her memory.

Answer 7

You could write a letter to the baby and put it into a special box, such as a small jewellery box. That way you've got a physical reminder of the baby.

Answer 8

it might seem gross but i kept the pregnancy test. its all i really have to remember my baby since i miscarried so early.

Answer 9

It's sad, but you have to move on. A miscarried baby wasn't a baby, it was a fetus that your body rejected. It wasn't perfect for some reason, so your body killed it. You may have chosen a name for a future child you may still have, but you didnt' name this baby, because it never was a baby.

Holding on to the 'memory' is liking holding on to an old diaper. It's sick.

Keep trying, but you haven't lost a baby, you've lost what could have been a baby. It's like trying to remember each one of your periods, because those are babies you've lost as well.

Get over it, save the name and try again.