I always tell her how sexy she is, but she just doesn't put as much work into us a she used to. There used to be lingere and sexy undies, she took care of her body for me, now she only dresses up when she has an event to go to and I mostly see her in her fleece pajamas. I want to feel chased after again, I think she knows this, I have commented about buying her lingere etc, before, and have told her how I like her shaven, but she still won't do it, and says she doesnt feel sexy although I tell her so.. What do I do??
2007-03-04 21:31:46 · 10 answers · asked by paidad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you've communicated this to her and she has not responded, then she's either not comfortable with it or something else is wrong.
I suggest you seek marital counseling to determine why she doesn't want to do those things.
P.S. A little romance goes a long way. When was the last time you reached out to her in an intimate non-sexual way? Flowers, cards, hand holding in public, etc... A romantic gesture where things don't end in sex.
2007-03-04 21:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Ace, you get what you put into it.
Take a little time for YOURSELF first. You know, take a shower, shave, put something on that smells good, but not overwhelming. Buy some new jammies or undies (or whatever the heck you sleep in), sheets (there are some nice flannel ones on QVC that feel almost like brushed silk. They are made by Northern Lights), light some candles and whatever else YOU are craving to set the mood.
Spice things up for YOURSELF, try something new and put a little more time into playing first.
Just because your wife does not need the romance (she does, but doesn't think she does), you do. Do it for yourself, and even though it might take a little while, I bet she will start doing the things that you like again.
2007-03-05 01:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask her what is going on because there is obviously some kind of issue. Whether it be insecurity, bad self-image, depression, bored, not feeling wanted, etc. It can take a lot for a woman to feel sexy if she has it in her head that she isn't. romance it up for her. It goes both ways. Don't make her feel uncomfortable though because that will just make it worse. If nothing you say or show her helps then suggest marriage counseling and tell her how you feel about the situation. Make suer you let her know that she is the most sexy woman you have ever laid eyes (and hands :) ) on. she is probably having issues with herself and doesn't know how to express them to you or hasn't recognized that she has issues. If you get to the bottom of why then you can start resolving the issue.
2007-03-04 22:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by BJTD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is busy with her work and getting tired or maybe sex has become so mechanical that you think of it only in the bedroom.A lot of good stuff can be done even out of bedroom like holding hands,kissing her on the cheek,hugging her from behind,complimenting her beauty,and not the least is helping her in household work.when was the last time you gave her a gift?Do something to show you care!good luck and happy life.
2007-03-04 22:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by fav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this would help. Invite friends round for dinner say twice a week she may get the picture. Does she work or has she any outside interest. ( sports or such like).
No doubt she has probably lost her identity as a person and has forgotten that she is a woman.
It may help to have more woman friends around her.
2007-03-04 21:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but the "sexy" stage doesn't last forever. What's wrong with fleece pajamas? You should want her to be comfortable. She's probably wondering if you married her because you love her, or because she shaved and wore lingerie!!
2007-03-04 23:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to suprise her one night. Get her something sexy to wear. Tell her you want a date with her. Think of something. Have her shower or bathe. You shave her and let things go from there. Be creative. I love this when my husband does this for me.
2007-03-05 02:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a serious but kind conversation. I guess she become a little depressed and doesnt have enough motive for her daily things. you must find out the reason.
good luck
2007-03-04 21:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by *Grace* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes tired and become lazy i think why not u will be the 1 to buy lingere for her and help her to shave in that way she will wake up wil remind her
2007-03-04 21:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find out the answer to that question and get it to work, hit me up and tell me what it was. Good luck!
2007-03-04 21:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋