Unfortunatly this person is very immature. Spends a great deal of time trying to impress people and friends of her daughter. Has a problem with spending and buying toys - clothing etc for the child.
Also when we have been invited for dinner or dinning out she must always be the centre of attention.
However having said that, she has run back to her parents 5 times
and refuses to acknowledge the problem with a councellor. Her husband however is prepared to talk but I get the feeling she wants out.
She has a loving husband, who enjoys going out with his friends, has invited her to go along with him, in most cases she has left early. I have met his friends and they are agreat group of people.
All in the same age group 25yrs 30yr. Also many are married with children.
2007-03-04 21:23:24 · 7 answers · asked by aotea s 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Send her back to her parents. They did one hell of a bang up job raising her.
2007-03-04 23:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her husband needs to go to counselling with her that way they can both let each other know what their problems are with one another and come to some agreement on how they can both mutually benefit from this relationship. I feel her parents should stop opening the door to her & advise her to seek help with her marriage. I agree she should be able to seek their advice & comfort but I do feel that she is running away from any confrontation. Has this happened since the child came along. Maybe she is upset because she is no longer the centre of attention. Maybe she was too young when she got married & had her child. My husband doesn't like some of my friends & I don't like some of his but we make the effort to be friendly to those people when they come around & we don't ***** or carry on about them. They could both sit down & write pros & cons about their relationship & try working out the cons & be fair about it. I don't believe she should use her child in the manner she is as this is showing her immaturity. All in all it is between these two to sort it out & if they can't then maybe they should both move on for not only their sake but for the child as well.
2007-03-05 07:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there so where do you fit in with this situation ?? are you the husband or a jealous viewer ......not sure which any way ......you did ask for different views and this is mine .....so the wife is young and a bit immature .....do you by any chance fancy the husband as you are slatting this poor woman ....the guy is married so get lost ....if on the other hand you are the husband then why not say so and then we can deal with that problem .......ever thought that this is something so deep rooted thateven she doesnt know who to deal with it and the only way she knows how to cope is going home to her mum ......you havent said that you love her and want things sorted out all you are doing is having a right good moan about her and claiming to be a sodding saint .......she wants to make a good connection with her kids friends is that so bad it means that if that happens there will always be somewhere for these kids to turn to ......and believe me that is no bad thing in this world to have that when you are growing up......the counsellor thing .......not every one works by the way .....she might need to go to a few diofferent ones til she ........finds the one that she feels comfortable to talk to .....just cause you find it easy ....doesnt mean that she will .....god if everyone was as perfect as you ....well we aint !!!!!now the going out to dinner thing ....well .how abouyt the fact that she is nervous and is a bit over the top and that is due to her wanting to be excepted by these people ........and as for the last bit goes out with youre friends and leaves early .....have you ever stoped her and asked if she is alright ??ever done anything to try and help the situation ....ever spent some real good time together and just sat and talked about the to of you and not had the friends about the counsellor the family andits dog cat and the budgie sticking its penny in .......if you are the friend ....then here is a bit of advice ......get a woman of youre own and keep youre nose out of there marriage and let them get on with it .......if you are the husband ......do you really want to be in this marriage or have you had enoughand want out .....only you can answer these questions ........i will be really suprized if you have read all of this .....good luck and take care xx
2007-03-05 05:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes i agree that this is very immature on her part as she should stay with you as her husband and work things out and go to marriage counseling with you. You also need counseling as well. Men sometimes go back home to mom and dad when they have problems as well and these men need to grow up too. Let her keep running back to mom as someday she will get tired of running and if she wants out of the marriage and does not want it to work you cannot make her love you.... Let her go if she wants out is all I am saying. She really should go out with her husband as well and stop running away.
2007-03-05 06:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't need to like his friends. they might be pleasant people for him and unpleasant for her. so if he likes going out with them so much why doesn't he marry them and leaves nice woman alone for someone who will value her and her company
2007-03-05 05:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She seeks support.
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2007-03-05 05:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they figure mom has had this problem before so she knows what to do.
2007-03-05 07:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋