2007-03-04 20:58:55 · 17 answers · asked by melbournewooferblue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know this is an old question but I would like to get the views of young people as well.
2007-03-04 21:00:07 · update #1
Cos people have acess to sites like this where they can get anyones opinion and did you notice how no one encourages the other positively when they are facing problems but rather most of the answers are always leave, walk out, kick him/her out, dump him/her and find someone new. What about a family sticking together and putting the past behind them for the sake of the kids, etc.
2007-03-05 00:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by lonelyheart 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always a complex one to answer, and any answer will probably be quite generalised...
I reckon we live in an age where everything has become disposable. Simple example - not too long ago, if your TV broke, you had it repaired. Nowadays you just throw it away and buy a new one!
This phenomenon is widespread, and definitely is affecting the way we look at ALL aspects of life, including relationships. The "sense of responsibility" that should be associated with the life long commitment that is marriage, isn't there anymore, and when a problem arises in a marriage, instead of putting in the effort to resolve it, the "easy way out" is simply to get a divorce. And look at how easy it is to get a divorce nowadays - lawyers even run ads "Get divorced the easily and pain free".
The root cause leading to couples considering a divorce, should always be looked at. Probably because of our fast-paced lifestyles, you find many couples not communicating as much as they should. Both partners work hard all day, get home, slap together a quick supper that they have in front of the TV, and go to bed. So "intimate" communication isn't there so much anymore. So the couple starts drifting apart, and before you know it, they've got a problem and they don't really know how to talk to each other anymore in a way conducive way to resolve it...
2007-03-05 05:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler Durden 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We've been happily married 36 years, and below are what I consider critical elements for a successful relationship. A lack of any one of these could spell separation.
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-03-05 08:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not young. I'm 48, but people don't want to take time to work at a marriage. Something goes wrong and they're ready to bail out on the marriage. Marriage is one of two of the toughest jobs you'll ever work at. The other is Parenting.
2007-03-05 06:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by K.W. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People expect too much out of life and out of their relationships!Everyone is looking for a perfect mate!!Nobody is perfect,not even you!People give up too easy, and don't know how to compromise!It is a vicious circle of never being satisfied with anything.Always looking for something or someone better.It is PITIFUL.
2007-03-05 05:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by alchemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. They are too easy to obtain
2. Lack of committment to the relationship
3. Money problems: generally causes the tension in the marriage
2007-03-05 05:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we think we dont need anyone and we dont have to bear anyone we can be happy alone. An evil teach. We need one because love has been created so long ago and to live love you need someone else and when you dont live love you cannot be happy. this is a system created by what ever you believe.
so if you are divorsed, get married again and dont try to change her try to love her as she is try to sacrifice little bit.
2007-03-05 05:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by zubeyde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because life is too short to live it out in misery. The people that stick it out until the end have too much pride or don't want to admit that they have wasted most of their life being miserable.
2007-03-05 05:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people are too selfish nowadays. they want everything as a perfectionist but they dont want to try a little to make themselves perfect. they want to have everything they see ,but what about commitment and forgiveness? they become tierd of their relationship and their sex and start to want a new one, but it repeated the same as befor...
2007-03-05 06:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by *Grace* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people seem to think love is a feeling and when that feeling goes, its over, when in reality, love is a choice. you have to choose to love someone. because even if you are mad at someone, you don't have the feeling that you love them, but you know you still do because you choose to love them. that's my opinion anyway. i am 17 by the way
2007-03-05 05:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by LoVeLY LaURa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋