me and my ex weren together 4 nearly 10 years. we have 2 kids together. on news years day he moved out saying that he does not love me any more. we are friends but we still have sex every so week. he knows that i love him and would do any thing to get him back. ive asked him if hes feelings for me will ever chance he says dont know plz help what can i do
2007-03-04 20:44:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop it right now. You are allowing yourself to be used in the most horrendcous way and he's not going to tell you to stop is he?
He is totally having his cake and eating it and who can blame him when you lay yourself out like a Smorgasbord every time he wants to empty his bags?
Cut him out of your life and get some self respect. He is never going to realise what he is missing because he is not missing anything! He now has no responsibility and sex when he wants it. Second Heaven fo a bloke.
Throw him away and once he starts to realise that you mean what you say and say what you mean he may realise what a crashing mistake he has made...and if he doesn't realise, then SO WHAT?! You will have had the strength to move on which can only make you a better person in the long run.
Good Luck. Please tell him where to go.
2007-03-04 20:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that he doesn't have feelings for you any more. You have to accept this fact. Since you LOVE him you want him back but his heart is so much far away from you by now. He might have started to see some body. You should not have sex with him any more. You should say no when he asks it.
You should start a new life and you have to be strong and let this go though it is really difficult. You don't have to waste any of your time with him any more. You just have to move on starting from this moment.
Good Luck!
2007-03-04 21:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously move on and stop the intamate contact with him.
You have children together so it is best for them if you can keep some friendship between you but all he is doing by sleeping with you is using your love for his gain. Put a stop to it. If his feelings change in the future so be it but you do not need to give him sex for that to happen.
Good luck, it's hard but respect yourself and be strong.
2007-03-04 21:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think only you love him alot dats y u still can let him have sex wif u. I think you are a nice lady who still think of him as a husband of us and father for the two children. But what is the use. He makes use of u, satisfy himself and goes away. But u r left with the burden of looking after his children. There might be other man who is waiting to give his love to u and the children. Try to forget about your ex boyfriend. He's not worth.
2007-03-04 20:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by saddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I owuld say stop havning sex with him, I know it's nice but that alone is not gonna make him come back, if anything it's gonna discourage him because why come back when he's getting it anyway?? I'm sorry it's blunt, but I think it's true. Thsi is a complicated situation, and slleping together is only making it more so.
2007-03-04 20:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Happening_babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, he knows what he's doing, doesn't he ?!? he gets to have his cake & eat it. sorry hon, but this guy is using you. why would he want to move back in with you when he's getting everything that he already needs ? personally, i wouldn't be sleeping with the guy. he's already said that he doesn't love u, don't let him use u like this. you are worth more than this, u deserve to be treated well by a guy who loves u, and who doesn't just use u for sex. u are better off without someone like this screwing around with your life & your emotions. yes, stay friends with him for the sake of the kids, but stop giving him everything he wants.... he'd have more respect for u if let him know that u can manage just fine without him.
2007-03-04 20:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants the 'penny and the bun' like many men. Cut off his supply of sex, be friendly for the sake of your children, but no more. If he wants you he'll let you know in time. Meanwhile, get on with your own life. HE left YOU. Stop being a doormat!
2007-03-04 20:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life and move on - he's using you for the occasional bunk up and that's it - the more you pander to him the longer it will go on - next time he pops round tell him you don't want sex - see him disappear out the door damn quick!
2007-03-04 20:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping with him for a start. because he is using you, seems to me he is leading you on saying that he doesn't know if his feelings will change. because they probably wont. show him that u are over him even if u arnt. let him see what he has lost. I know it is hard but be strong and he is not worth it!!
2007-03-04 21:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont sleep with him anymore, he just wants his cake and to eat it. He knows you will do anything for him and it sounds as though he is taking advantage.
You need to be strong and except the fact that his feelings may never change.
2007-03-04 20:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by dancing darlings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋