I have a best friend named Trish. She was my friend for over five years. But a new person entered our group. She now looks closer to Trish than me, and she knows a lot about what's happening about my best friend, while I, on the other hand, don't really know that much. They share more interests (Trish and I are opposites, but we still get along). They always hang out with each other and seem to enjoy each other's company. I feel left out. I've kept this thing for many months and it's bothering me. Now I find my self easily distracted, thinking about how to go about this problem.
I've lost a close friend before and it made me feel sad. Now I think I'm losing another one. Do I really deserve to have a best friend? What should I do?
2007-03-04 20:41:47 · 12 answers · asked by cheska 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, we were actually a trio. Trish, Kathy and I are best friends. Unfortunately, Kathy had to move so Trish and I were left behind but the three of us still keep close. Two years after, the new friend came in.
A relationship that lasted long enough is something hard to let go. That is what I'm worrying about.
2007-03-04 21:11:05 · update #1
Losing friends are painful - but you can talk to them about it if it's really tearing you a part. I have a friend who I've known since 4th grade, for about 10 years. She started hanging around some people who were superficial and started becoming that way herself. I would try to hang out with her, but she would shrug me off. Then, I finally put my foot down and confronted her through an e-mail (for me, it's easier and less complicated to do it that way) and told her exactly how I felt; which, I was deeply hurt because we were so close. After, she realized what she was doing and appologized - we're closer than ever now! Just say how you feel, your friend will appreciate it and she'll discover how much you really care about her and how much this affects you. It's worth it!
2007-03-12 20:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dysire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this usually happens in friendship if you are three rather than two. And some times you will find some one who you can have more things in common than your previous friend. That is what happened to you. Your friend has found this girl more interesting and the are a match in many common things. So you have to accept the fact and if you really care about your friend you should just adjust your self and be with them. If this is difficult for you then I am afraid you have to let them go.
2007-03-04 21:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you heard the story of Reason, Season and Lifetime. but anyway here it goes:
Reason, Season and Lifetime
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People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
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When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
or to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
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Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
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Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
...
When people come into your life for a SEASON,
it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
the season eventually ends.
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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being part of my life.
...
Used with permission
~©Brian A. "Drew" Chalker~
i might not know where you two fit in from what you have said it seems you came for the season, and your time is up. but not be sad you've played your part to the best. i might be wrong but look thoroughly at your relationship with her and see where you fit.
good luck
2007-03-04 21:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should at least find out a lot about a person before you get close friends. And you need to talk to your friend Trish and ask her what is going on.
2007-03-12 07:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, Cheska, I know how painful losing a friend can be. The truth is, friendships change. The best thing you can do for you is focus on what makes you happy and be open to making new friends. You absolutely deserve to have a best friend, but if you're now "in between" best friends, make sure you do things to make YOU feel good about YOU.
You can't force a friendship. That's one of the worst things about life. It would be so much easier if we could, but we can't. So take some time to focus on you, and soon a new friend will present themself. GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-04 20:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by renee_kovach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend probably hangs out with her cause she's a new person and she might feel like she's 'cooler' than you. The EXACT same thing happened to me. Everyone called us the three musketeers but then my best friend got closer to the other one and I lost them both. They became best friends ever but like 3 months later it all ended. now me and her are even closer than we were before.. if you like someone just because they're cool it's not going to work. soon your friend's gonna realize who the better one is and come back to you i hope =] this can end up making your friendship stronger!! =)
2007-03-12 15:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Old friends are gold, new friends are silver", that's the old saying. A true friend will always be your friend regardless of how many other friends they acquire. Don't be jealous that your friend has found someone that has her same interests. Be happy for your friend, and enjoy the things that the two of you have always shared. You should expand your friendship list by finding extending yourself to other people with your same interests.
If you lose that friendship, then it really was not as strong of a bond as you considered it to be.
2007-03-04 20:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your best friend about it? I was in the same situation, sorta. I introduced one of my best friends of 8 years to a girl I just met, they had more in common they both had 2 kids I only have a son, well now a step son too. Anyways, I was hurt because my best friend would go see her and never me. Finally I found out my so called best friend was talking about me behind my back and talking about my family. So I ended the friendship now I feel bad because this girl is having problems putting her children first, she lost a good job chasing a guy now her and her children are doing bad and she doesn't take care if them. It hurts but she didn't want to be my friend anymore and wanted to talk about me. So try talking to your friend and see what going on before you jump to conclusion but if its time for it to end its time for it to end.
2007-03-04 20:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a lovely card to trish.
2007-03-04 22:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously jealous about the new friendship but what the heck, you are best friends and so with this thought in mind, tell yourself if you need to speak with her than do it. In a relationship, you need to open up and let the other party know that you care. Try it and see..
2007-03-04 20:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋