How unconditional is mother's love? Would she forgive her son's crimes? Should she? If he kills his father?

Question

I love my mother for her pure and unselfish love towards all her sons, including myself. I do not mean to strike a discordant note this kind of an insensitive question.... but truth often comes out only in dire circumstances or after a lot of churning.

Further.....
Killing father is just an extreme example assuming this hurts his mother the most. The basic question is whether mother's love is so unconditional as to forgive his crimes such as murder, rape etc. and secondly whether that is what is expected of a mother's love when we say it is unconditional.

Carnac's case is a sorry exception... I am certainly not talking of such unlikely mothers!

Answer 1

Maybe,,,,,,

it depends on what is the son's REASON in doing such unimaginable thing,,,,,,,

What kind of UNFORGIVABLE SIN does his father has done to him or to her mother or to the family for the son to have that kind of devastating HATE resulting for a revenge or a crime,,,,,,??????????

This situation is very very sad,,,,, specially to the mother,,,, how can she cope up with a loss of a husband and where will she get the courage to accept this truth that her own son is now a criminal and would probably be put in jail,,,,,,

She can probably forgive her son,,,, maybe it will take time depending really on why her son do this unthinkable self justice act of revenge,,,,,,, but can she move on,,,,? can she ever be the same again,,,,? will she survive,,,? how long and how far will this trauma and pain haunt her,,,,?

Just imagining this makes me cry for any mother,,,,, :-(


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Answer 2

There are so many possibilities to your question. At that moment, I guess, they were out of discussion on what caused the death, other than besieged by fear and confusion. The passage of time whether the mother will forgive the son, depend on the closeness between the bereaved and the deceased.

Generally, the mother would forgive the son. Simply the death of one, deserved another in the living, when the dramatic will be unfolded with the mother concealing the crime for the son instead.

Answer 3

I think there is no unconditional love. Even a mother's love is conditional. Mother's love is instinctive, more or less, and depends on those instincts, or lack thereof. Some mothers have murdered their children.

Human beings love that which gives them pleasure or somehow meets their needs. If loving a child fulfills the mother's hardwired instinct to love her child she will love the child -- but it's conditional on the instincts. If a woman has a happy intelligent healthy child and a unhappy stupid sickly child the happy one will be loved more -- again love is conditional.

I know what I'm talking about. My mother had very little capacity for love and great capacity for contempt. She gave my younger brother and myself away to an even more contemptuous uncle when I was 9 years old. We stayed with the uncle until I was 13 at which time my parents were forced to takes us back. When we returned to our parents my mother hated me more than ever. She treated me like a disease the rest of her life.

Answer 4

I believe that it is amazing what human beings are capable of. We can get hurt the most by the people we love the most and still eventually forgive them for what they have done.
Everyone deals with pain in different ways, and maybe with time forgiveness just happens. Some people hold it in for years but it could destroy them, so yes. I think they should forgive them. They may choose to no longer have a relationship with them, but people never should hold in anger or resentment and pain. It only hurts the victim.

Answer 5

To be honest the mother would be devastated,the mother some how will forgive his son but within so many years cause killing your father is like killing your self,may be it would depend on the situation,but still you have no right to kill where you came from.

Answer 6

I think, in my perspective, the mother will forgive her son.

It is a very overwhelming feeling how love for your children becomes your top priority in life. No one stands in the way between the mother and them even if the mother is not well-respected enough by her young children.

Take it from a single mother hard-up in life who has only eyes for her children.

i am sorry to hear from Carnac.

Answer 7

A mothers love is never ending. No matter what her child does.Including murder. Thats the law of nature.

Answer 8

this is a complicated question to answer ..
ok ; let say her son kill her husband ? did i understand you correctly ?
in which circumstances ? was it to protect her ?
you also put crimeS in plural ?
i cannot answer your question the way you put it to us :-(
do you care to come back and say a bit more ?
:-)