what's the best way to come out to your very narrow minded traditional parents?!?

Question

i've been feeling the need to tell them more than ever lately!
I don't know why, it might be because i started dating someone for the first time in my life, so am kind of scared and guilty!!!!!!!!! :(

Answer 1

im now 40 and to this day my parents still dont know for they would never accept me for who i am in my case i dropped all contact it just made my life easier that was 15 years ago

Answer 2

Dating someone is a matter of ur choice not theirs. They may have a right to say what is right or wrong. But never to dictate terms and conditions,coz love is ought to be unconditional. The day it becomes conditional the air becomes stale and dude u would suffocate to death.

Ur the boss of ur life, so listen to urself first and try nurturing ur innerself.

I dont mean that u should have no regards for parents. But u seem to be from a typical Indian family so the traditional values make u think u r wrong.

For ur kind information even God did never dictate terms and conditions to his beloved children it is only heard that he dicatated them to his son Moses.

Ha Ha Ha

Answer 3

The best way to come out to your very narrow minded traditional parents is to start communicating with them. Keep them informed of things. Getting your friends home is yet another splendid opportunity to help them come out. No harm in giving them an opportunity to see how other people face certain situations, so give them a chance. It all depends on you.

Answer 4

When my parents were alive i slowly introduced conversations regarding sexuality at a young age and then as time progressed and i could see how they felt it became easier to discuss issues and then i told them of how i felt torn to be male or female. My father pasted and then i talked with my mother more. i got married and spoke with her. I have been in and out of the closet many times and i have been a bisexual since and early age as well as a cross dresser. You have to ease the topic in and let them absorb it and then be open and talk about it. You may touch on their inner feelings that are hidden by their parents suppression. Linda

Answer 5

Don't feel guilty for following your heart. If you feel the need to come out to them, don't make it a big complicated process. Just sit them down and tell them the truth, and if they can't handle it, then you are better off without them. I know it is easy for me to say this and a lot harder for you to do it, but I have been where you are. The worst part of it for me was the anxiety that they would condemn me, not the actual telling.

Answer 6

Well, I agree that your parents probably already know, but I don't think they know better, per se. You know yourself more than anyone else, including your parents. So are you secure in your sexuality? Part of coming out means admitting it to yourself before you admit it to others. Have you come fully to terms with it? If not, you might want to wait, because their reaction might be enough to make you want to go back in the closet. If you really think you're ready, though, just tell them quickly, without your boyfriend present. Do it like ripping off a Band-Aid, but don't be surprised if they don't warm up to the idea immediately. Give them time to come to terms with it, just like you had to.

Answer 7

I also have very "traditional "mexican parents.....i was deadly afraid of letting them know that i was a lesbian. I honestly thought i would cause my mom to have a heart attack when i told her or they would disown me. But to my surprise i decided to tell them over the phone..and all my mom said was, If god wanted it that way then let it be, who cares, i love you. I was in shock of course but all so relived. Till this day all my fam knows and they treat me great they dont care as long as i am happy that is all that matters to them.
But i do think the best way to tell them would be in person
Good Luck!

Answer 8

I waited until I was in my late 20s to come put to my religious right parents. My mother still avoids the subject at all costs.. If you are dependent on them, I would suggest evaluating whether or not they will withhold support if you come out.

Answer 9

Scared and guilty for what? You haven't done anything wrong, so relax. I say, just tell them and don't apologize because there's nothing for you to apologize about nor is there anything for you to explain. It is what it is. How they handle it is purely up to them, but you've done nothing wrong. Don't make a big show of telling them, in fact, I would be very casual about it. Heck, I was when I came out. Just say, "Mom, I can't wait for you to meet the new guy that I'm dating. He's fantastic! And when we're in bed..." I'm kidding about the last sentence. Just casually tell them, how they handle it, again, is their problem not yours.

Answer 10

i in my opinion believe a great number of belongings you're saying. i think in God, no longer faith, i imagine all forms of Gov't is merely stupid. it really is the nature of humanity. people are ignorant and continually will be. They grew up with certain concepts, and they could't look to allow bypass of them. this is in our nature to be accurate. and people believe that their way is sweet and no others. you merely might want to come to acceptance that you may't please all of us. certain, the international is tangled up because of that. people merely opt for to study a thanks to repect the way of others. i'm a really liberal man or woman, and that i too get made thrilling of, no man or woman seems to appreciate me both.