i want to addopt a child , and in 3 days there is a fam reunion do determine what will happend with the child. family dont like me but need to be ther to put my interest in this child what acctitude should i carry with these fam members that dont like me for just being a foward person. they dont want me to get this child !!! but they have not done nothing for this child , child has been in foster care for 2 years allready i have been trying hard to give this lil girl a home , my hears is in this but feel kind of scared dont know why.... what are any of your sugestions?
2007-03-04 20:21:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Adopting is a wonderful pursuit if thats what you want to do.
Now for reality, My wife and I adopted our 4 wonderful sons all a family member of some sort or another and I can tell you first hand everyone knows best but the adopted parents. Never mind that your giving them a good and loving home , never mind that your helping the family out, never mind that when it comes time for holidays these interlopers who call themselves the grandparents want to have you go over there homes (4 different family's in all) for the holidays , and never mind what you and wife wants, the grandparents demand everything and give nothing in return, not even babysitting duty's.
This is my option take it for what its worth be your own person , if you have a spouse then rely on his judgment when family starts getting on your nerves, and give him authority to cancelle should it all go south.
My wife and I are raising four other children as well 2 sister, from wifes side , her sister who robe a bank and is now in prison for 15 years, Her little 1/2 sister who is 6 and been living with us for 4 years. now because her 49 year old mother decided to have an affair and got pregnant with the other mans baby and her husband wont have it in his home, and threaten to take it all away from her if she got a divorce (solid Pre-nup) so she has given us the girl, but opens her mouth every time we don't need advise and wont let wife and I adopt ,because she hopes husband will one day relent, well that not going to happen I can assure you. my sister son after a swinging incident that has destroyed both her family and has her own son calling her names!
Everyone has got there own story to tell and want you to hear why you need there option , well both wife and I are tired of them all, and have told them walk and don;t feel like there invited back.
Your doing a fine thing with that child so remember to take a deep breath every now and again, always remember it's your child and let no one tell you different NO ONE!
And god bless you .
P.s. we also adoped 4 boys who we love more then anything.
2007-03-04 20:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if they don't like you? If you are willing to give this child a loving, healthy home then go for it. Why has it taken two years for family to attempt to step up and adopt one of their own (I'm assuming this since there will be a family reunion about it)? Don't let them hold you back from trying to give a child a home.
2007-03-05 04:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by BJTD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a married person? Are you going to take care of the adopted child yourself? Are you financially sound and have a job to go with it? If all your answers are yes, by all means adopt.
If not, the adopted child will suffer in your hands and maybe the child will hate his life if he is not given a good and loving home to live in.
2007-03-05 04:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can adopt if you like.
But don't cheat yourself out of the whole child bearing experience. Make sure you get knocked up at least once in your life.
2007-03-05 04:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go there, dress down, keep low profile.
2007-03-05 04:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is best for you. wahtever makes you comfortable. don't do it for other people.
2007-03-05 04:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋