My husband is always enjoying with outsiders, but not with me. When I asked about his behavior, he told me," You are responsible for this because after marriage I discovered that you are not virgin." He mentally tortured me always. He always showed the same cause behind his torture. He told me that he is struggling for monye, but he spent 25 dollars for other's wife gift. He restricted my phone call to my parents to save money while I am earning and taking nothing for my fooding, lodging and clothing. He is earning Rs.2,00,000 per month. Still he told me to save money from my salary (Rs.8000 per month).
2007-03-04 19:55:21 · 20 answers · asked by sanjukta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's harsh but you should definitely leave him. He sounds psychologically abusive and you don't deserve that. Get out ASAP. Don't make excuses to stay.
2007-03-04 19:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by infamousheavyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously trying to give excuses of not being with you and his unhappiness about you not being virgin are all bullshit. If this marriage is getting you no where, I would suggest that you try to get a marriage counsellor to help resolve your problem or worse come to worse, you have to ask for a divorce.
Your husband's mindset is negative and should not be this way if he wants to maintain this marriage. With regards to financial support and providing for the home, I would suggest that you discuss with him what his plans are and if he wants to continue with the marriage and try to work things out. If he says no, just divorce him. Hope that you can solve this problem soon. Take care.
2007-03-04 20:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is hard to come by. But sometimes it is better to end it now before it is too late. No point being with someone who dun treasure you at all. Leave him. Get a divorce. it takes a great amount of courage if you really like him. But divorce is the only option.
2007-03-04 20:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a controlling husband. He can't hold you accountable for something that happened in the past. I had been through a past relationship. My ex b/f who was very abusived in every way. Mentally, verbally, physical. I was destroyed inside and out. I left, moved back home to my parent, got a job and started everything fresh.. And it have been 7 years now. I am doing much better now.
2007-03-04 20:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer honestly: were u vergin? if no, then u should had told him this before the marriage. then either he would not accept u( and ur life won'e b such worse), or he would accept u with ur infidelity.
if u were virgin, then try to analyse what made him suspect this. men suspect if on first night the girl does not bleed. if so, then artfully make him realise that some virgins don't bleed.
don'e make haste, take time, he will come back.
2007-03-04 23:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by alone in 6billion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to say sorry for not telling him about the virginity issue? have you tried to explain your side on this issue? If so yet he still can't accept you because you didn't tell me him that you and your explanation, then the situation is irrevocable & the best thing for you to do is to leave him before the situation gets worse and complicated. He is an egoist & no matter how much you please him, you will still be living miserably for the rest of your life. So leave him & move on.
2007-03-04 20:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Leonie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TWO OPTIONS
1. Bobbytize him
2. Go to a marriage councellor
2007-03-04 20:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by bruno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz if you can have a say with him. Sit with him at night when he's relaxed and openly tell him your cause of worry so that your problems to an extent are solved.Don't panic n don't let him be panic at you.Plz discuss this matter as fast as you can as time gone never comes back.....
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2007-03-04 20:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by somi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy is going to continue to blame his bad behavior on that then get the hell out of the marriage. divorce seems appropriate here. peace
2007-03-04 19:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him alone if he really loves u he will come back to u and about virginity tell him that the hymen breakage can occur due to any reason even due to cycling also so its not my fault ok and if he is enjoying outside u can do so......but just for swoing him not exactly
2007-03-04 21:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by sameer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋