Each time I make a mistake, my boss has to tell me in a loud voice, so that everyone can hear. I feel humiliated. My colleague has already told me that her behaviour is totally out of order, but I'm shy to confront and don't know where to start! My boss tells me that I have errors in my letters and that the managers have complained about me. When I emailed these managers to apologise for all these mistakes, I get replied with, "It's not a problem". I'm very slim and now my boss is asking if I'm anorexic or bulimic, as she ''wishes she was slim'. I feel I don't want to come in to work anymore, but as she's my immediate boss, how do I cope with her? If I have a disagreement about something, she raises her voice so everyone can hear and she always wins the argument. Once, when she was speaking with me she said to me, "You've gone all red". PLEASE HELP.
2007-03-04 19:47:48 · 32 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Hi,
I had to answer this question because I have been through something similar. The answer for me was LEAVE. I know this is difficult, and the fact that your confidence must be at an all time low means that finding another job will be difficult. If you don't find another job, you will without a doubt end up off with stress or just walk out, which will be worse in the long run. Always remember that it is not you, and that looking for a new job might just be the thing you need in your life. If you do get a new job, start off as you mean to go on, don't take any crap, and always look back on your old boss as loosing out.
I was given a written warning for misfranking a letter by 32pence. This was one of a hundred little tiny things that drove me to tears for 18 months. That was when I worked for a FInancial Advisors. Now I am taking an NVQ3 and working with children. BEST thing I ever did.
Sod em all, and look after yourself, look in the mirror......see you are great, and can work for someone better.
Go Girl!
2007-03-04 21:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by zozobythesea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
REPORT HER!!!!
I did it and I won and she lost her Job and i kept mine!
My Boss was a Bully she would do the exact same things as you have just said, I started to write everything down!
I got a diary and I always wrote everything down, I also got my partner to make a statement as he sometimes saw the state of me and also i had nasty texts from my boss to!
I would go to your boss's manager, no-one is to high up to get away with Bullying! I really feel for you hun, I know exactly what your going through!
You know you said about your Boss saying your slim and she wishs she was, maybe thats where it stems from! My boss knew I was on a diet as I was unhappy with my weight, Im only a size 12 now but i used to be a 14-16 and she would always go and buy cakes and then when I said i didnt want one she would try and make me look really silly in front of people!
She always had a go at me infront of everyone, and used to love it if i would get upset as I often would! I hate conflict!!
Please report it as this isnt fair and you need to get it sorted!!
Goodluck
2007-03-04 20:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Triple check your work.
2. Make an appointment to speak privately with your boss.
3. Explain that you understand, and will try harder.
4. Then mention that you would appreciate her discussing any future problems with you in privacy.
5. If she does not comply, report this abuse to her direct supervisor. If she is the highest (who knows how she got there), I suggest that you begin searching for a better job. When you have successfully found another job, let her know why you feel the need to leave. That may not help you, but hopefully she will learn something from it, if she really valued your service to the company.
2007-03-04 20:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put up with this. Keep a diary of all the issues that upset you. When, what happened and who esle was about at the time. This will help you to prove your case in the future. If you are a member of the Union then you can complain to them and have them fight your case. Your complany will probably have a grievance procedure and you could use that. Speak to personnel about the problem and have her warned. If all esle fails threaten to take the company to an Employment Tribunal...just watch the reaction to that on! Whatever you do...do something, you shouldn't have to put up with the bad management style of your boss
2007-03-04 19:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kaypee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for another job babe. This woman is going to make your life a misery simply because she is jealous of your youth, charm, good looks and body size.
She is a cow, but until you are confident enough to tell her where to go...in an even louder voice than hers she will always win.
If it was me, I'd be asking her why she feels she has to constantly nitpick errors when other managers involved do not even see them as a problem.
Collect evidence of HER mistakes...we all make them.
Or you could try to get her on side and ask her what she can do to help you stop making these 'mistakes'. If she is a manager, then perhaps she is responsible for training...she may go into 'proud teacher' mode and try to help you.
Best of luck, but I feel a new job coming on and a big 'V' sign as you leave!
2007-03-04 19:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Strong laxative in her coffe cup, Just make sure you remove all the toilet paper from the ladies in the morning.......
Look for a another job. Life is too short to have people like that piss you off.
And if that is the type of manager the company employs then hell go work for a company that has a future, maybe put that in your resignation letter, but don´t say anything about the laxative.
2007-03-04 22:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by JayEleven 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should go and talk to human resources about this boss, ask any friends who said she was out of order if they will support your claims and be willing to back your claims with thier own . write down every bad thing they say to you and ask for witnesses after, and ask people to sign off on the paper where you wrote it down. you should already be looking for a new job if your boss treats you this way. if you are really desperate you should try and get canned so you can collect unemployment until you find a new job. after you get a new job send a letter telling your old bosses boss why you left.
2007-03-04 20:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by comic book guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always be brave for 5 minutes and tell her if she carries on talking to you like the way she is you are going to have a word with the managers about her bullying you..OR the next time she says she wants to be as slim as you say "yes i bet you do, you are a bit podgy " and tell her you have emailed your bosses about your mistakes if any and their fine with it, if she raises her voice just say "you don't have to shout I'm not deaf you know " going a bit red for a few minutes is nothing to be ashamed of, you can also look to see if your local community centre is running a how to be assertive course which will help you stand up for yourself..goodluck
2007-03-04 20:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, so many times when I was younger I let people at work make me miserable. Leave. Just go. It really isn't worth it. You'll get another job if you want one.
You get tougher as you get older, I know, I have. Now, I would stand up to her, report her to the union and her managers (she will have some) but if it is goingto keep you awake at night just leave them all to it, bunch of cows.
They are only jealous cos your slim and (I bet! ) young! They are bullying because they know they can. They are cows, unfortuantely there is one in every work place.
2007-03-04 20:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. This is totally unacceptable. You must either go to your union rep (if you have one), or your HR department and report this person straight away. To make a complaint about her is very easy and you are allowed to take another member of staff who you are comfortable with in with you.
Managers are not allowed to talk to you like this. If she really has a problem there are proper channels she can use. But humiliating you is not acceptable. Dont stand for it!!!
Good luck x
2007-03-04 19:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋