Ladies, did your husband ever hit you, apologized for it, and you gave him another chance?

Question

If so, did he really change after that? Is he treating you better? Or would you have preferred if you walked out from the first day?

And if you did walk away, do you regret leaving him even though he promised to change and never do it again?

Just your thoughts and opinions, thanks

Answer 1

My husband has never hit me, but my ex boyfriend did. Each time he apologized and each time I stayed.... then I finally realized that I was only pissing away my life over a man who was never going to change. The only reason I stayed was because after each time he apologized, we'd go through yet another "honeymoon phase" and then things would go right back to the way they used to be. I loved him with all of my heart, but finally I had no choice but to love myself more.

I left him and fled where we lived. I moved away and started my life over, and most importantly, abuse free.

Answer 2

Although you addressed this to "Ladies" I am going to comment on your question. If this is the first time that he hit you, insist that he attends anger control management classes. If there is ever a second occurrence or if he refuses, get as far away from him as you can (preferably with a restraining order). A "promise to change" is not likely to change your relationship. Any person, male or female, who physically abuses their partner is a someone that has no control at all. I really think that you should have gotten the police involved the first time (assuming that you didn't) and ended the relationship at that point. Please do not wait until he seriously injures you or worse!

Answer 3

Well, im speaking in terms of someone else, not myself. If it's been a long marriage (not like you guys have just been married for months) , im sure its worth it to give the person another chance. Both of them however need to work out their problems and compromise. And the husband has to be sincere. However, if this happens for the second or third time, the wife should walk out of the relationship. If she thinks that she'll regret this, she's dead wrong and should really use her brains instead of being abused. If the husband is sincere/ knows how to keep his promise, he should work things out and control himself from making the same mistakes over and over again. Not just being nice and have nice surprises cause of guilty conscience for the next few days. I mean, remember your vows. If the one that loves you hurt you, get out of it before it's too late. Im happy that the person i know got out of it and decided to let go of her relationship. So yeah.. that helps? =)

Answer 4

I once had a boyfriend that raised his hand to me....Notice the once I had a .....I didn't keep him around....

I don't believe that a Man should ever raise his hand to a women and that any man that does is a weak excuse for a living being.

I believe that once a Man hits a women there is no turning back....when they hit in the first place....its hidden anger that strikes out uncontrolled.
Getting help, seeking counseling may be an option, something to help control that anger....however as a women I would walk on egg shells.....with major concerns every-time there was an disagreement.
Its a major step to admit that you cant control your anger...getting help is even a bigger step.......

best wishes
Just my thoughts...............

Answer 5

I wasn't put on this earth to be hit by no man and if one ever tried well all I can say is "GOD BE WITH HIM!". I made it clear to my husband from the get go, that if he ever thinks he can hit me , well he might be able to do it but he better not go back to sleep again because that's when I would beat him half to death with a bat. And I wasn't kidding. Of course he wouldn't and has never tried but would you?, after a bad 1st. marriage{no beating} I was going to make any point to him I had to, so there were no miss understandings of who he married.

Answer 6

I've never been married, but I had a boyfriend who hit me once or twice. The first time, I cried uncontrollably...he didn't really hit me hard, I think it just really scared me.

He ended up telling his parents what he did, and it didn't happen for months. But when we moved in together, he hit me another time and didn't tell his parents. That time, I told his parents and then soon after that I moved out.

There's no excuse for hitting someone! Even if you're a girl and you hit your boyfriend/husband. Hitting does NOT solve anything and it's unacceptable.

Answer 7

Husband...no way! ex-bf...yes once & last chance. If someone, male or female, loses their self control to the point of hitting the one they supposebly love, it's a done deal. My husband would walk away, go punch something outside, anything BUT hit me.

Answer 8

I was in a relationship which was abusive. He hit me, apologized, I took him back, he was sweet at first, then the cycle began again, and unfortunately again and again... I should have walked away long before he hit me, as he hit me with hurtful words before he hurt me with his hands. I regret staying as long as I did. I don't regret getting away from him.

Answer 9

No. If he ever hit me he would be straight out the dorr and I would never let him back.
One time we were having an argument and he hit the coffee table and it broke, I had a hard enough time forgiving him for that.

Answer 10

He was a jerk and I was restricted to the barracks for my own safety when I did nothing wrong.Not to mention he was 6' 3" and the only time he saw stars in his life is when I automatically reacted to bieng attacked.