Is “She is crazy, get over it”, or “There has been a legal breach in our agreem?

Question

Last Tuesday we signed our divorce agreement.
Saturday afternoon my daughter had a recital. Since my son spent the night with me, I drove him and EX took my daughter. When my son and I arrived, EX was in the auditorium seated with an acquaintance, Mr. R. I noticed shortly afterward that R had his arm around EX and they were quite cozy, enjoying the PDA. I did not notice them further.
After the concert we were all waiting in the lobby for my daughter to come from the stage. I did make a derogatory statement to Mr. R and retired into an adjacent east hallway.
When daughter arrived she had tears in her eyes, and she walked up to EX and stuck her middle finger almost literally in EX’s nose. Then she came over to me all puffy and we hugged and I took her into the east hallway where I attempted to calm her down. She then left the hallway and I did not see her again. She did ride with home with X

Answer 1

Sounds like your daughter is noticing what mum is up to and is not happy about it. What i suggest to you though is to worry only about your children and forget the ex. Your children will see her for what she is and you just need to be their rock so that when they are upset they know you will always be there. The last thing you need is to lose your children but at the same time, as hurt as you must be don't be rude to the mum in front of the kids they don't need to see this.

Answer 2

What agreement did you two have that she is in breach of? Obviously the mother was not thinking of the feelings of the kids and how they would feel when seeing her with another man. I am going to assume the daughter was upset over her being with him. Divorces are hard stuff and it gets harder when one moves on and the other has not gotten to that spot yet. Even still what hard feelings you and your Ex have towards each other should not be shown infront of the kids. Even though you are having issuse with your ex moving on those are your personal issuse. No I do not think it is such a good thing to introduce another man into their lives so soon but you can not control what she does. You can only control your actions and be as supportive towards your kids as much as you can. Talk with them openly, asking very little question but listening attentivly. Kids love to talk and they will tell you everything you want to know about what is going on with out you asking. Let them know you are ok even if you are not. They are smarter then they look and they will worry about you. They did not ask for this situation so even though your wife is not looking out for their feelings I admire you as a father that you are!!

Answer 3

To me it doesn't matter who was where....however the child should be taught manners how and where to keep that middle
finger.

Emotions are going to be going for your children and as adults you two need to be friends, yes there will be other adults (men and women) involved with your families. The children need to know that you respect one another for that to be an option.

all involved deserve happiness....not a middle finger.

Maybe the timing wasn't right...the other man should have been brought at a different time...or has he been around before?
Any who...the children need to know you as adults deserve happiness too......fingers flown shouldn't be allowed...I would try to stop that now and let the children know you paren'ts are in control....they arent

Good luck

Answer 4

You should explain to your daughter that you and her mother are now divorced and that her mother is now free to chose her romantic or friendly relationships. You seem to need to remind yourself of the same thing. When or if your ex remarries, are you still going to show such jealousy?

Answer 5

Sorry, the question is?
She's divorced and has a BF..... what is the problem?
You were out of line for making a rude comment.
And everyone was out of line for not correcting the child for vulgar gestures.

Answer 6

Dunno, but you could address this to an Attorney.
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