Please lead me to the right direction?

Question

My husband is NRI. Before marriage I asked him several times why you are marrying me. He avoided the question. But after mariage he told me that he has got married to me only because I will be in job. Once I told him," I want to leave my job.". He replied," then stay in your parent's home." After one month of marriage he went to abroad. He is neither calling me nor mailing me. When he was with me in my resident, I had to spend money for everything. He told me,"when we will be in your place, you have to spen, I will not spend." He has left me with only Rs.2000/- on 9th January for that whole month. I told his parents over telephone and him by mail that I am ill. Still anyone of them didn't call me to know about my health. But my brothe-in-law demanded that my father is now ex-father and his father is my present-father. Now I am feeling insecure. Please suggest me.

Answer 1

Any direction your husband goes, you should go in the opposite direction.

Answer 2

In these days, everyone is seeking for a job to be independant. Why do you want to leave your job? Where are you living now? Your parents house or in your own house or your inlaws house? You are not clear on that. Anyway, you should not leave your job. There are so many cases like this that you read in the newspapers everyday. NRIs leaving their brides high and dry soon after wedding. Most of them are after the dowry they get. Once they get the money, they are off. What is your case? You can always go to a Mahila Court and tell them your case and force your husband/inlaws to take care of you. But you have to decide on that.. In any case, don't leave the job. Otherwise you will be at the receiving end of all nonsense.

Answer 3

I dont know under what arrangement were you married and after marriage why didnt you both stay together. It must be horrifying for you. The only person that could address this issue is your husband...but if he is not contactable or avoiding then you better speak to your inlaw. Please be very specific and ask them why are they doing all this and what do they want from you??
The decision to arrive at a logical end should be of prime importance. With ou tthinking negative....try and find what the reasons could be and what the consequence could be. Face it dear...life sometimes is difficult to handle...but understand one most important thing: Nobody is indespensable enough to let you live life in trauma....the sooner to accept the better it is.
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Good Luck

Answer 4

Hello,

I know wat you must be going thru. But be patient and be strong enough to tackle the situation. First, tell your relatives about it and then try know more about him from people who suggested the marriage.

You can also tell some people abroad to find about his whereabouts. Or, you can go personally and tak to his family and relatives.

You are lucky enough that you now, know wat type of man he is.. and are saved... think about those who go there with such NRI's and then mess up their lives.

The last option left wt you is approach the Police and they are the best to help you.....

Do not worry be strong you are still alone that is u have no children you can start a new again. You have to also support your family. Do not give up easily ... fight for your right and remember its not the end ....

Dnt loose hope... good luck.

Answer 5

Hi, im Sanjay Sharma, Delhi im married, having two kids and a beautiful wife, i have married since 12 years.

Dont mind, i think and wants to say you that your husband is a selffish person as u write about him. He used her only for his career growth not for his future family life. He seems to be a highly ambitious person and no ambitious person has a emotional feelings for others. You should not waste your life and time with such a person who dont care about your feelings and your career too. As far as, this is a question of your life, everybody has a right to secure his/her life. Once he used you for his career purpose, You should also not allow him to enter into your life. Divorce him immediately and get a better partner to whom u feels emotional touch.

Ofcourse we are human being and not a machine, we cannot live with such a person who dont have feelings towards his life partners. If need any conciliation on this topic. your most welcome u can discuss with me.

Thanks

Sanjay Sharma - Delhi
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Answer 6

Even now if you don't realise what to do, I am sorry to mention that you are wasting your Time, Money and Life on a spoilt sport and a family that should be brought to court. Seek Divorce as early as possible and Demand Alimony.

Answer 7

Usually new brides lack patience and tolerance in matrimonial home. It shakes and disturbs future happy relations, and sometimes cracks the wedlock. Spouses should understand sufferings and endeavour to keep each other happy. Hasty decisions sometimes lead towards loss and damage.

Answer 8

They realy seem to be evil. Please try to find alternative. If you had opt for a native first u would not have to search for alternative. you are also resposible as you wanted to go abroad and selected a wrong person

Answer 9

Make new begin ,consult u r solicitor finish with your gone, start life a fresh.

Answer 10

if you don't have child or not pregnant and also you are live with out him happily then take divorce this is time for you to take decision of your own ,and you r thinking he is not loving you so pals take divorce .but for that you have to be strong with mind ,money ,job,house .......