why does my husband sulk when things aren't done the way he wants,he goes to the extend of not taking food?

Answer 1

Everybody likes to have things done the way they want them to. A little sulking from time to time is human nature. Going as far as not eating is getting a little extreme, though.

A couple of things come to mind based on my own personal experiences...

Did he have an independent childhood? Was he raised by his parents or raise himself? I've found from my own childhood that I have trouble accepting somebody else's work. It never seems to be as good as I want it to be. I link this to my independence growing up. I always did things my way and nobody was there to tell me otherwise. As an adult, I still fight the urge to tell my wife that my way is better.

Is this a recent change or has he always been this way.

Is anything else going on in his life that would make him feel less important? Without getting into the sexist banter, it is important to realize that most men need to feel like a primary contributor to the family. Insecurity can make him feel like he has to show his dominance in other ways. If his boss makes him feel incompetent at work, he can come home and reflect that on to you or your children by complaining about the way you are doing things.

Whatever you do, try to understand where it is coming from. You shouldn't have to "live with it" or "get used to it," but you may have to put up with it for a while until you can figure out where it is coming from.

Answer 2

He's sulking, like an immature little boy. He needs possible consaling for his attitude. I've had friends like this. It's "their way or, no way" or they sulk, they pout, they won't talk, they get mad, they want nothing to do with you, for the time being.
It must be hard living with him. I'll bet he has to control everything from the way life is around the house, from the way you life to the way he has sex. Am I right?

Answer 3

Sounds passive aggressive and has the martyr syndrome! The next time e refuses food, make sure you have one of the both of your favorite meals prepared. When he refuses it, sit down and enjoy it yourself. He is trying to punish you and make you feel guilty. He cannot stand for anyone else to enjoy themselves. He is controlling and manipulative. By not actually being violent, he is taking advantage of you with psychological control. Don't give it to him. See is he would like to go to counseling with you or alone. This is what children do when they can't have their way.

Answer 4

If it is not good enough, have him do a better job and show you how to do it, rather than criticise it.
Better to be a teacher and not a preacher.

Answer 5

Because he's immature. You don't have a husband you have a child.

Answer 6

He needs his mommy! Does he suck his thumb, too? Send him packing!

Answer 7

Dump him.