what do i do to get over my soul mate, who came after me not the other way around. and now she cant leave her?

Question

I went work , and then she did. and eventually became my boss, while pursuing me very heavily. She told me things about herself that only people very close to her know, only two others in fact her mom and husband. she told me theese things to find out if I could deal with them to see if we had a future. she introduced me to her kids and invited me to supper. It was her husbands idea to invite me over, nothing had happened at that point, however we were very attracted to one another. we started to get closer at work, taking lunch breaks together, going for cruises in the country and really feeling each other out as to could we spend the rest of our lives together. she made it seem all the time that it would only be a matter of time before she left, she is definitely not inlove with him anymore and sometimes she hates him. he is 39 she 29 and he treats her like a child, and complaines about his life. this bothers her. she says she loves me, i dont want to hurt h children but im inlove

Answer 1

This relationship is not good for you, or her kids. To me she sounds like she does not know what she really wants and is very immature. I would try and stop this relationship. You most probably will end up just like her husband, she will find another person to take your place if you do end up together.

However, as far as the children go you have to be real sensitive, with them. You can stop seeing them as often as you do, and slowly they will detach themselves from you. But do it slowly. It is enough that they have a mother that is messed up emotionally, you don't want to add salt on their wounds.

Answer 2

, Oh! That is a big problem to get involve with a marriage woman. If you just want an action, go ahead ,it is fun and exhilarating until the novelty of the game is faded. Of course She'd find things to complain about her husband, on the long run she find something to complain about you too ,to the next new guy.New matters seem perfect and you want to have it,then when you have have it losses the sparks,and you want a new one again. May I suggest that you research the meaning of soulmate.

Answer 3

i dont know why people do this while they are married! why ...if the relationship has gone sour and there's no love left at all after all ....why not break it up first before getting involved with someone else? i dont understand her reasoning! so she's going about sleeping with her husband all the while pursuing you...and you feel you are soulmates? children can survive a divorce if handled properly and the new step parents are kind and loving. take a break from your relationship and let her work on her marriage. if shes your soulmate....she can figure out her situation and you can wait. peace

Answer 4

run and hide because a storm is coming your way. if she does it to him she will do the same to you. how would you have felt if you were in his shoes. she will put you in the same place as she got him. you would never make it because you know how slick she is and will always wonder if shes doing you the same way she did him. open your eyes. are you ready to take full responsibility of marriage, drama, kids and someone you can't trust? GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

and when you knew she was married you kept getting to know her.
She must have thought she loved he husband to marry him.
And if you got together you would trust her not to do it again, to you???
She thinks she loves you, but does she really?
Get out of there and find someone for yourself.

Answer 6

if she doesn't love him anymore why don't she just get a divorce before getting involve with somebody else ? maybe she is just a flirt .......

Answer 7

She is a tramp. Run!