Question to AntiFeminist Men. Would you prefer to have your wife at home raising your children?

Question

But would you RESPECT that women for making the sacrifce?
The role of the caregiver is just as valuable/and demanding as the role of a bread winner and they should appreciate each other for their efforts. If that is Feminism, then I guess I am a feminist.... I think that the mother's role (and women) should be honoured as a 'real job' - not degraded and insulted. Isn't that why feminism started in the first place - lack of respect for women? Why compete in the boardroom if you are loved and shown real appreciation at home by the man you love?
SORRY FOR THE SPEECH but I felt I should explain the question.

RIGHT ON RESQUALLY

I MEAN RESQUALLE

INFAMOUSH ! I AGREE ! KIDS MATTER ! SO DO 'BOTH' PARENTS.

RAINI do not not see choosing to raise children as something less than boardroom or secular glory. I agree that the choices are not always that simple for every person. MEN who provide for their family and who are good fathers/husbands also make sacfices. MEN can be selfish, but so can woman. Kids come first if you have them. I respect your many very valid points though.

Answer 1

Women should be loved and respected and treated like the queens. Staying at home with the children is not only an important job, it's the MOST important job, in a society where more and more children are being raised at day cares or with nannies. Although someone must of course make money. Anyone who is willing to give up their career in order to raise children and take care of their home deserves the utmost respect.

That isn't to say that a woman shouldn't be aloud to work, or that it's wrong for them to do so. I just think that raising children and taking care of the home is easily as important and demanding as any job in the workforce.

Answer 2

(Not so silent listener):
In regards to women, you said "Why compete in the boardroom if you are loved and shown real appreciation at home by the man you love"? To begin, perhaps some women enjoy the boardroom and don't feel threatened...perhaps that's why they chose the profession in the first place. Perhaps too, her life doesn't begin and end with the love of a man but instead is simply an important part of it...but not everything. Secondly, your statement implies to me that if a woman was promised a loving husband then as a result she would give up her dreams in favor of his. Sounds more like a bargaining chip instead of a respectful and honest arrangment.

Men don't go out in to the work force just for money, they also derive a sense of personal satisfaction, they meet new people, they experience life. So it is the same with a woman. Beyond popular belief, women don't do it to show men up, but instead are are interested in reaching their potentials as human beings as opposed to hiding their light behind a bushel.

So, if a woman chooses to stay home raising kids full-time then the choice should be made from a position of self-awareness and honesty. When the man and woman both have exciting and fulfilling careers, who stays home? Who is 'expected' to make the sacrifice? And why?

Answer 3

Do you know, there was a time, not as long ago as you may think, WOMEN were not even aloud to speak, without their husbands permission: if they did, the husband beat the woman, while his male counterparts, stood outside and laughed and cheered. Maybe you can explain, in the court system, there are FATHER's RIGHTS! FATHER's RIGHTS LAWYERS!! and FATHER's RIGHTS LAWS!!! Have you ever heard of MOTHER's RIGHTS? MOTHER's RIGHTS LAWYERS, and LAWS? The strong women of our past, made it possible, for women to have a voice, and have the few rights we have. If we care about our daughters, and granddaughters, we really need to look at the equality, that is not so equal, and the rights that women do have today, came at a high price. Women should be respected, when they stay home, and be the homemaker, (amongst other titles, such as maid, baker, cleaner, organizer, etc..), and that is an honorable, awesome, and selfless choice, as long as it is a choice. It is not FEMINISM, it is VALIDATION!!!

Answer 4

I think alot of SAHM's have made a bad name for themselves, by being lazy and not upholding their end of the bargain. Being a SAHM doesnt simply mean staying home and barely watching your child, it means cleaning the house, bathing your children, and cooking real dinners, not putting slop or fast food on the table, and not asking your husband to clean up messes that he never created while he was out at work all day. I also get annoyed when I hear some complain about how their child has worn them out and they are tired. Um hello, take your child down to the park and let them wear themselves out by burning off all that pent up energy, dont just expect them to watch tv all day and be content snacking. If more SAHM's werent so selfish, and lazy, perhaps more men wouldnt be reluctant to agree to a SAH situation. I will conclude by saying that women who really enjoy being mothers and wives, do not complain about their roles at home, or their jobs within the home. For anyone who thinks being a SAHM is a tough job, I think its best for those women to opt out of being a mother alltogether.

Answer 5

I am all for women working and doing what ever they want to in life. i didnt mind the early feminsts....but i dont think theres much to gain left. I mean i dont like hearing some complain about not getting equal pay...when it has been proved that they are. Also I dont like the abortion issue...why should only women have the right to decide in becoming a parent or not? If she gets pregnant she can just abort and move on...while a man would have no choice, he would to pay for it for 18 years. If its just about being pregnant and its 'your body' then I dont want the hear all the pro-choice reteric like it could ruin her future or she cant afford it. Abortion is the same as being a *******. People always complain about deadbeat fathers not surporting thier children, but thier just the same as women who abort. In my opinion, for what it is worth, I think everybody (men and women) should take responsibity 4 a life that they created.

Answer 6

I think you kinda answered your own question. Most men nowadays expect their wives to work AND do all the housework. That's the way their mothers raised them. And I think it's a shame.

If you're being made to feel "less than" because you don't work, your husband is a jerk!

Answer 7

Agreed. I do appriciate my wife's efforts and i reward her any way i can, or whatever she want to for the day. Also consider what men do for the household.

Answer 8

Whatever floats her boat. As long as the kids have food to eat and are kept out of trouble, I'd say both of us can do whatever we want.