Has anyone gone through a divorce as a child .... ...if you were upset how did you deal with the pain? Or Has anyone gone through parents getting divorced and then you never saw one of your parents again for a long time.??
2007-03-04 18:19:17 · 9 answers · asked by city_chic20 * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parent divorce when I was 10. But I still can see my mom and dad because my dad live close to my mom new house. The way I deal with it is not to think about it, find something you interested to do then you will never think of the unhappy thing again. It has been 15 years from now.
2007-03-04 19:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by msjerge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my dear, so sad, the children always pay mentally when there is a divorce. Of course you have to know, it has nothing to do with you or anything you done. Still, I know the mental heartache it cause's children. Parents should try to be civil to one another for the child's sake but we all know, some parents are not grown up their selves. The statistic's for divorce are so high, so many kids with divorce ed parents, you are not alone. Maybe you could find a good friend that is in the same situation and you could share your feelings with each other. Talking to someone else in the same boat can be very consoling. I am not sure but I think there is also meetings, like AA for alcoholic's, that are for kids of divorced parents. Type something like that into your computer and see if you can find something.
I am assuming you are a child in this situation.
As a child, I had a good friend that used to pray her parents divorced, they were so mentally and physically abusive to one another, she was just about having a nervous breakdown watching this. So, sometimes its in the best interest of the children if the parents do go their seperate ways. Sometimes they are better people being apart. You can still love both of them.
2007-03-05 02:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! When my parents split, I was shocked! My mother moved me to the other side of the country, so I saw my Dad rarely! It was awful! But then I began to realize how happy both of my parents were. My mom really lightened up and my Dad wasn't always angry anymore. I am now 31 and I am so glad that my parents did what they did. It was the best thing for me and my siblings.
If you are going through this, please don't worry, everything will eventually work out. You will go through some really tough times, but it will save you from having to live with parents of a loveless marriage, and you will learn to know how to love people. Good luck to you!
2007-03-05 02:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents aren't divorced but my partners parents are. His dad was always out anyway and we haven't seen him in over 6 years, well longer than 10 minutes anyway, my children now suffer as they don't get to see their pop. My partner though couldn't care less wether he seen his dad again anyway which i disagree with but the father brought it all on himself. Me though i wished my parents had gotten divorced as all they done was fight and destroy our lives by seeing all the violence that went on. My parents destroyed a brand new house by smashing everything to pieces and once they finished on the house they started on each other. God how i prayed they would get divorced so that i could maybe have a normal life like everyone else.
2007-03-05 02:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can say kinda, I was 19 when my parents divorced, but I had 3 sisters ages 14, 11 and 9. My father left and never had any contact with them again. It was very hard on them, my husband and I just tried our best to be there for them. They had us, neighbors, teachers and lots of friends to talk to. At age 37 I talked to my father and asked him why he did that, he said that he didn't want to make my sister choose between him and our mother. My mother was very controlling, I mean VERY! She didn't want my sisters to have anything to do with our father, so she won. He gave up on fighting with our mother and gave up his kids, he missed them so much and it was the hardest thing that he ever did. He regrets he choice, totally does....to bad that we can't go back in time.
I now see my father about 3 times a week, we talk everyday, and I forgave him for doing that - i love him
2007-03-05 02:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never saw my father again...divorced at a young age and father signed all rights away...
Mother remarried when I was 6 to a man that was in our lives for 3 years prior....after her divorce and he raised me as his own.....
Wouldnt trade anything about my life....
My bio dad stayed out of our lives all together...his loss...we are all doing well and are really happy, productive adults...:O)
best wishes
2007-03-05 02:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 5. my parents split for a few years, then divorced because of an affair (her's not his). luckily, my dad was always near, and helped raise us. he was never late with child support. i don't remember my childhood, but i know he was always there for my brother and i.
2007-03-05 02:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sent my child to thearpy because the father didnt see her for a long time she still loves him and is angry but at the same time grabs at any chance she has to see her dad
2007-03-05 02:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tina d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was awful for me, i came home from school and mom had left,took all of her things and didn't even say good bye, i was angry at her for years, my dad worked all the time so i had to raise myself, he would bring cold food home for me to eat, but it was gross,i ended up being anorexic,was sick all the time didn't want to live at all,but things worked out now we all get along.
2007-03-05 02:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋