Do you think it is wrong or pointless to pursue a woman who identifies herself as straight, but is really curious about lesbianism and asks a lot of questions regarding it? She knows I am a lesbian and asks a lot of intimate personal questions. I don't know if she is questioning her identity or just an inquiring mind. I am attracted to her and find myself thinking about her. I guess what I'm asking is is it worth it to try a relationship or should I just leave it alone?
2007-03-04 18:12:02 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As a straight man, I wouldn't want the gay guy I was learning about homosexuality from to persistantly chase for a relationship with me. He could mentioned it once if he'd like, but he should respect the fact that I'm straight, so I think you should respect her heterosexuality.
Sometimes we straight people simply want to learn more about homosexuality from you, since the media & schools do a piss poor job of that. Sometimes we ask just to learn more of what the actual differences between us & you actually are. We learn more about why we're straight & what that really means, & why your gay & the details of why, instead of just assuming & believing in stereotypes. What better way to learn than ask someone who actually is gay/lesbian/bi? But don't read into it too far. Sometimes, curiousity of how someone lives is just that, & not always a sign that they're in-the-closet like most people hastfully & stupidly assume.
Maybe she is confused. Ask her once if you feel it necessary, but once you learn she's not into women, let her be. Even if she really isn't straight, don't force her.
2007-03-04 18:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
She may be curious, she may be bi-curious, she may be questioning. Regardless of where she stands sexually, a gay relationship probably isn't something she is ready for right now. I wouldn't pursue ANYTHING until you are certain she is either gay or bisexual. If she is straight and merely curious about gay identity, flirting could really freak her out and make her lose trust in you as a friend. If she is gay or bisexual, she obviously hasn't admitted this to anyone yet - including herself - and is still in need of a friend more than a lover.
2007-03-04 19:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by CAD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just curious. She might even be curious enough to experiment a little. That doesn't meant that she's a lesbian or even bi so if you're interested in a relationship it's probably for the best if you don't get involved at all or you're going to get hurt if she decides that she isn't interested in you in that way.
2007-03-04 19:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can change what anyone is convinced of , I fall in love with a lesbian (one side love) and I spend lots of time and feelings and couldn't change anything what so ever .
So , don't waste your feelings on something that can't be done .
2007-03-04 19:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
On one hand, she may be testing the waters, which could get you hurt if she decides she likes men better. But, she could have just been waiting on you. I'd like to think romantically, but are you willing to accept that you might just be her trial run?
2007-03-04 18:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by sweettea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should ask her outright if she is curious to experiment and/or date you or if she was just being nosey. chances are, she will give you an honest answer, and that will give you what you need to decide whether or not to pursue things further..
2007-03-04 18:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You'd only be setting yourself up for heartbreak. Don't ever be a straight chick's guinea pig. I've been there.
2007-03-04 20:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree 100% with "angelpaws." do not be her guinea pig...and that's essentially what you will be. it's certainly not worth it by any stretch....i tried it and got my butt kicked. stay far far away!! stick with the girls who KNOW what they want!
2007-03-05 01:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Taken by a Texan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure the details you do give her are amazing..try it, ya never know.
2007-03-04 18:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋