I had a gay male friend who's as beautiful on the inside as he is on the outside. Whenever we go out girls either stare at him or look at me with pure envy. He's really sweet, really keen, understanding and has a really high EQ.
He recently came out and told me that he had become straight. He said he no longer felt attracted to guys and desired women more and was glad never to have slept with a guy. He then admitted that he was in love with me. He loves me.
However, I have a boyfriend that he doesn't know about. He's a really great friend and I don't want our friendship to end by me rejecting and hurting him. How can I handle this situation?
2007-03-04 18:08:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just give it to him just like that> Just ell him that you are seeing someone at the time and that you really like the guy you're with. He'll undertstand if you be honest wuth him. But whatever you do let him know upfront what the situation is so that he will not contine to waste your time or his by pursuing you. But to be honest if you say this guy is gay, was gay whatever he's gay. He may still like women but he's gay unless he's super super super confused about what it is he wants you or him. Good luck
2007-03-04 18:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be funny but, somethings wrong there. You can't change that aspect of your being. You can choose to not want it but, he will still feel gay on the inside. Just because he wants you to think that for what ever reason he has. He may really really not want to be gay and not know what to do and thinks this could change him. I've been struggling with those feelings all my life and no matter how hard I try not to be attracted to other guys I can't stop it. Good luck.
2007-03-05 02:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like he might be lying about not being attracted to guys anymore. I mean men usually don't just turn out to be straight, usually they remain bi but want to try women only for a while.
I would say something like you only want to be friends right now. And that you'll let him know if things change (which they shouldn't if you have a man already). It's nice and comforting to know he'll still have you in his life somehow rather than not at all.
2007-03-05 02:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chris C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may sound harsh but the truth is, we are not responsible for how others feel. He may or may not react the way you predict. But sooner or later you will have to reveal your other relationship. So tell him that while he was living his "other life" you were living your own...and in your own world you had your own relationships. Now that he wants to move into your world, he will have to live by the rules of your world...and one rule is that when you already have a special relationship different from they type you and he had before, you can't simply break off your other relationships. Ask for his understanding. Whether or not he can be understanding is his issue, not yours.
2007-03-05 02:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are gay usually stay gay. It is a natural thing for them to be attracted to the same sex. That's just the way gays roll. Just stick to your current boyfriend. The other guy will probably realize he is lying to himself sooner or later.
2007-03-05 02:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Desert Rose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him with love, from yr heart "He's a really great friend and I don't want our friendship to end". Honesty is best without the details. good luck
2007-03-05 02:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by bright_merry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really your friend then he will understand that friendship is more important.Just tell him that you think he is a very nice person, but when friends cross that line it will never be the same a friendship is more important.
2007-03-05 02:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by WILLIAMS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way not to hurt him. There also isn't a way to let him down gently. However, you can lessen the amount of time of pain he'll feel the sooner you tell him.
2007-03-05 02:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, you cant. He probably planned it out. Acting gay is a way guys attempt to get close to girls. You've been played.
2007-03-05 02:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you can be good friends and stay that way as long as you can, until you are sure that you can decide whom you loved very much live together forever!! Hope that helps.
2007-03-05 02:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋