i let my friend move into my house with me and my family for a week. last night i found out she stole my bank card and took my money and she was stealing clothes from my sister. she was my good friend for about 8 years and im tottaly upset she could do something like this to me. i dont know how to react or how i should handle this, ive kicked her out, but i feel i need to do more..what do i do?
2007-03-04 18:05:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So sorry - that sucks.
Confront her and see what she says. There are probably other issues her, like drug use or sexual abuse. But that's no excuse - make the line clear. Unless she is really willing to seek some help, she needs to go. She has to feel the consequence of breaking someone's trust before she realizes how harmful her actions are.
2007-03-04 18:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunnskye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her you know about it and ask her why. There may be a reason she feels she has to steal (drugs, debt etc). Tell her she should have told you she needed money or asked you if she could borrow money but you are stunned she would steal from you. If she gets too defensive she may have no good reason and you may need to tell her you will report it to get a straight answer. Stealing a bank card IS a crime and if there is any friendship here you're doing her no favors covering for her.
2007-03-05 02:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from someone who has been in your shoes -- you don't have to trash the friendship forever, but you DO have to sever your ties right now. Calling the cops is a decision you'll have to make. Regardless, the only reason that you should EVER talk to her again is if she apologizes (and maybe returns the stolen items)
2007-03-05 02:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by valetrat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do more understanding. most people steal because they need the money, not because they like the stuff they are stealing. most likely she is on drugs or has another bad, expensive habit. if this is the case, find out what it is, be cautious, but befriend her again. she probably needs you.
if this isn't the case, nevermind.
2007-03-05 02:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Chris C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her with your family. Ask her if she needs money or anything which your family can help. Remember not to be too harsh on her. She is human too. Human makes mistakes. Good luck.
2007-03-05 02:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file charges with the police. Gather your proof before you do so.
2007-03-05 02:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Frak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police.
2007-03-05 02:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops!
2007-03-05 02:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get proof and call the cops.
if they steal from you they are not your friend.
2007-03-05 02:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
close your bank account. press charges and change the locks
2007-03-05 02:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by tye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋