I have a friend who does not accept apologies. I guy apologized to him 3 x yet he does not accept them. I apologized to him 2x and he also does not accept the apology.
He says we have done something that he cannot forgive and once that happens and he closes the door HE NEVER OPENS IT AGAIN ...INDIAN MAN ...CUSTOM GOES BACK 2 GENERATIONS.
He feels so hurt that no words can ever get him to overcome the hurt. Yet if he does something wrong he never admits it and tells you that you are guilty and makes you feel demoralized.
What gives here???
2007-03-04 18:03:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My first thought was he's afraid if he allows you back in you'll do something else and not only will he be hurt again, he'll look stupid for trusting you.
Another possibility is he doesn't think words matter, only actions, and would expect you to show through actions that you are truly sorry for what happened and have made changes to ensure you wouldn't do it again. From your description though, it doesn't sound like that's the case with him.
He also can't take responsibility for his own actions. I think that'd probably be because he feels making a mistake is unacceptable and an unforgiveable sign of a weak personality. Which would also explain why he finds it so hard to forgive you for things you do. Basically very insecure.
2007-03-04 18:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by helehelo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 09:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he holds a grudge. my ex- stupidvisor is the same way, she said why apologize for doing or saying something when you meant to do or say it. on the other hand i hold a grudge, and let the person think i accept the apology.
2007-03-04 18:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you spend a lot of time apologizing for whatever you did.
But whatever you did seems to have been enough to really piss him off.
Are you a prankster?
A practical joker?
Whatever it is...knock it off.
A custom that only goes back 2 generations aint much of a custom:):):):)
2007-03-04 18:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! This sounds like my dad!
Maybe he just likes punishing people? Sounds like someone needs to lighten up. We're all human here!
2007-03-04 18:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Film_babe2000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cut him loose. Get another friend, a real one.
2007-03-04 18:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
SOUNDS LIKE A SPOILED BRAT
2007-03-04 18:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by someoldguy77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMMATURE man, I don't know what else to say-----SPEECHLESS of his ACTIONS.
2007-03-04 18:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by NOKIA 6103 By T*MOBILE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋