What if your bestfriend admitted to you that he had feelings for your wife?What would you do?

Question

How would you react?

Answer 1

I would ask him what he hopes to gain by telling me that.

Answer 2

I think all of these people are overreacting! First of all, you can have feelings for anyone and still never act upon those feelings. It's called self control! There are simply boundaries that you do not cross. I think you are lucky to have a friend that would admit this to you. Depending on the extent of 'feelings' for your wife (flirting, talking behind your back, etc.) I would simply be thankful that he has come forward with this! Could you imagine if nothing was ever said and something did happen without your knowledge? I think he just gave you all the reason to trust him....unless he has expressed otherwise! Good luck to you and yours!

Answer 3

Well, it's ok if he has feelings for your wife, I mean...every guy has feelings for some woman or the other. What you have to make sure though is if it's just infatuation or is he serious. If you ask him this, he is obviously going to say that it is love.
The second thing, and the most important thing that you have to determine is if your wife is aware of these 'feelings' and reciprocates.
In case the answer is yes, you should talk to both of them and decide what would work out best in the interest of them and your marriage.
If no, then I guess you should let your friend know and make him understand that you do not hold anything against him, but that he should be able to overcome those feelings and still be your friend.

Answer 4

I would kick his ***. Really. I am married, I am female..but if a friend of mine or my sister said they liked my man I would kick some butt. Talk to your wife. Say he feels this way about you and that you no longer want them to ever be alone together..not that you don't trust her but that you don't trust him and he may try to force himself on your wife. Make sure that she understands that you don't think she is the problem but that he is the problem. If you blame her then you can create more issues and you may push your wife to the man...you accuse her of doing something that she has never done so she may as well do it. I think that maybe the friend is trying to hook up with your lady..maybe in a 3some. BAD IDEA. As soon as you venture into the 3 partner sex your marriage is over. trust me on this. Tell your friend, yeah that's great but if you ever make a move I will have your balls in formaldehyde by the time I am finished with you. Make it clear that this is a NO-NO because if you joke around he may think you are giving him the all clear

Answer 5

Feelings??? What does he mean? If all he means is hey, your wife is really hot...consider it a compliment. If he's confiding to you that he's in love with your wife, then that's a whole different matter. Need you to elaborate more on exactly what he "admitted."

Answer 6

Third degree your wife and make damn sure she hasn't cheated on you with your best friend, he isn't saying that out of the blue for no reason.

Answer 7

Ask my wife if she knows of any reason why he has feelings for her. You don't just get feelings for someone by looking at them (unless that feeling is between your legs), you develop feelings by getting to know that person.

Answer 8

he was strong enough to tell you how he feels but i don't think he will do anything to mess up your friendship,like being with your wife, he was just being an honest man

Answer 9

I would say, stay away from me and especially, from my wife.

Answer 10

the woods, a shovel & some lime = shallow grave!