this man's elderly mom was dying of cancer so i (d) took her to love with him. 6 monthes after her living there the wife went and bought her a condo and on Christmas eve the wife left. I started see9ing him in june. we were very close and by the 1st of the yr later she and their grown children wanted them back together so she moved back in. he now text messages me and calls but i don't respond. he says he made a monumental mistake because he does not understand how he could fall in love in 6 months verses being with her 30 yrs. she did not want him until she found out about me. when his mom pasted she never even went to the funeral. am i wrong by not giving him another chance and feeling hurt because he promised me he was getting a divorse. instead his wife wanted them to try and hold their family together. why didn't she want this before i came into the picture. I ended up feeling used because i have never dated a married man in life, never beleived in it. he still contacts
2007-03-04 17:51:09 · 10 answers · asked by dd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MOVE ON.
LIVE AND LEARN.<><
2007-03-04 17:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by funnana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to feel used, you were. He wants his cake and be able to eat it too. Kick him to the curb....like he did you when he let his wife move back in. She moved out voluntarily, he did not have to let her back in but did. That tells it all. You know that old saying, "you fooled me once, shame on you, you fooled me twice, shame on me." Don't give him the opportunity to play games with you.
Move on and have a good life with someone that appreciates you, you sound like a good person.
2007-03-04 18:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said you had a chance when she moved out....but he pushed you aside when he took her back...his heart is with her and their children.....
I would think very hard and listen to your head on this one...not the heart....HE did it once he will do it again....step back...let him figure out his life and if you are still available when all is done then so be it....but I would continue on with your life....meet people, keep busy and enjoy life.. Life is too short to sit on the curb waiting for someone else to make your life decisions for you.......make your own path...
best wishes
2007-03-04 17:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont contact him anymore. Let him figure out his famiy issues. When he has and he is completley divorced, then you can work things out. Maybe the wife is jealous and wanted to work things out. She invested 30 yrs with him. He also needs to figure things out.....but without you. I am sorry you helped him out, I dont think he used you, if he is still calling you. But let him figure everything out for himself.
2007-03-04 17:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh,dear please let him divorce his wife first before you take him back with you.I can relate with this kind of situation,I take my married man back and thought he's goin to divorce his wife.We're more than 2yrs.now.But still he's with his wife and now he told me,I knew it already that he's married before I accept him to be with me,so now I blame myself.So,if I we're you now that he's still crazy for you ask hom to get divorce first.When the time that he's not crazy with you anymore and he's not yet divorce with his wife,I bet you he will leave you soon and choose to be with his wife and kids.Goodluck!God Bless YOu!
2007-03-04 18:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loved u so much and needed u in his life he never would have let his wife moved in with him again and got divorse much earlier. he just want sto get more fum in life. do not let him
2007-03-04 17:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am not sure whats the right thing to do but do warn you for one thing be careful at this age one is much influenced by ones grown up children and it is usually impossible to defy them
so keep a watch on his childrens possible reaction to wat you do
2007-03-04 19:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on . you ought to have learned from that . my opion?
2007-03-04 17:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct..
The man has no courage ..
2007-03-04 17:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you! your a good woman!
2007-03-04 17:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋