I dont have any good friends. I feel everyone around me is very selfish. I always try to be a good friend, I am 22yrs old now but I still dont have any friend other than my bf, we are very good friends from last six yrs. But I also feel the necessity of having other friends. My thoughs doesnt match with anybody else, everybody around looks very mean. Why it is so hard for me to find true frnds? Is anything wrong with me?
2007-03-04 17:33:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
nope. Nothing wrong with you. Did you know that almost everyone I have met since high school is an aquaintance? I tend to stick with one or two real friends but we only talk about the real stuff. I do enjoy my small talk friends but I think you should nurture a best friend for years as they are the ones who shere your deepest secrets and feelings.
2007-03-04 17:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You will find great friends doing things that you love to do...in a social environment. You can even make friends at the library. It might be hard for you to make friends if you always have your guard up, or you have a problem trusting people. I invest a lot of time in my friends, and we stay close just by talking about anything. Friends are something that just happens, and you can't force it. If you do they wont be true friends. Just relax around people and they will come. Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by ME!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you....my girlfriend is going through the same situation now and she feels like im the only one that she can really trust and talk to besides her family. Most of her friends she has just take and are completely self involved. She has given so much to some of them and gets nothing in return. Recently, she has made a new friend that she is really close with now. Do not waste your time with people that just make you feel bad, it takes both people to build a friendship and those people are only concerned with how THEY feel. It may take time but there are goo genuine poeple out there.
2007-03-05 01:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by snipe211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there are mean people, but everyone isn't mean. If you are still in college, find somebody you think would be fun to be with, and invite them to go get a quick bite at lunch. Maybe join a club, who's member's intrests you share. If you didn't go to college, or you're not curently in it. Relax. Go out a little bit more often. Talk to people who don't seem "mean". Maybe if you think somebody is nice and you bump into them twice or maybe once just ask them out on a "friendly" sort of get together. I am still in school, and friends are very easy to aquire, I suggest people who have recently moved to where you live. Those kinds of people are always in need of friends.
2007-03-05 01:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer for you.... HOWEVER i know exactly how you feel! I have the same problem im nice to my friends and they treat me like crap in return! THEY ARE SO SELFISH and only think of themselves while i try to help them in any way i can when they are in trouble! im sorry .. it sounds like you have the same problem!!
SO .. just wanted you to know your not alone..!! and nothing's wrong with you :] you just got stuck with some bad people but you will find some good ones. and im sure the ones your stuck with right now aren't that bad all the time :]
IT WILL ALWAYS GET BETTER
2007-03-05 01:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One way to make more friends is to go places and do things that interest you. If you like dancing, take a dance class. If you like art, volunteer at a local museum. Anything that puts you around people who have similiar interests.
Participate in neighborhood events. When you're out shopping, get to know the people who bag your groceries. The more people you are exposed to the more likely you are to meet people you have things in common with.
2007-03-05 01:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends comes out naturally. You don't have to find it as long as you are being true to yourself. I have lots of friends but few are true ones. Just always be true to yourself and don't expect anything from friendship... simple acquaintance can lead to a very truthful friendship as long as you are true to yourself and to your friends and don't expect anything from them. Besides everyone of us has One True Friend, and that is God. Do not feel emptiness for not having a one true HUMAN friend. There is this Someone who is always there for us no matter what.
2007-03-05 01:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heay friend,not all people are selfish as u say and i think that ur point of view about people is the main reason that u don't have alot of friends cause u think that all r selfish
moreover u say that u have one best friend i think it may be enough cause having alot of friend may be not so good as having one friend if this friend is a true friend for u
2007-03-05 01:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by cartooneg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and have almost the same problem (although, I don't have a bf) One thing you have to do is learn to love yourself for who you are, and not worry about what others think. I wish I could help more, but I need the same help. I am anxious to see what others say. Good luck, take care. God bless you.
2007-03-05 01:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By being a good friend to everyone else. When you are known for this they will come looking for you.
2007-03-05 01:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋