2007-03-04 17:32:29 · 22 answers · asked by daisymashobra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get help and leave. No one deserves to be beaten.
2007-03-04 17:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by m k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you let him laid a hand on you once, soon or later he will do it again. And it is only getting worse. My ex b/f of 4 years did that to me, as first I thought well maybe he loved me, and he felt insecure, because I am 12 yrs youngyer, so he was very jealous and overprotective.But then, I found out he wanted to controlled me and the abused only got worsed by beaten me up infront of my daughter for talking back at him and try to leave. That's when I realize if I don't get out of this relationship, I might not have got out at all. It has been 7 yrs since, my life only been better. I am now married 3yr,together 6yrs to my husband who is 4 yrs younger than me. Who is love and respected me and my daughter the way a woman should be treated. So I hope you will make a right decision as well.
2007-03-05 02:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, call the police if when this happens. Secondly, you don't have to wait for it to happen again. Go to a local women's shelter, YWCA, or even call the police and just ask for a referral if you have to. The advocates at the shelter will help you to start your life in a strong, positive manner and proceed down the proper avenues. Thirdly, if you are undocumented, make/take any copies of proof of the abuser's legal status!!! This is VERY important. Every state has referral services to help you find an immigration attorney, if you need one--or any women's shelter could help you find one, too. Remember--stay safe and call the police if you need to.
2007-03-05 01:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve far better treatment then that. Do not allow it. Call the human service or the police and find out if they have any safe houses for you to go to. They will also help you to get work if you need it and somewhere to stay permanently. You must keep in mind that no man that loves you will ever beat you. You can find a kind person to spend your life with so do not settle for less.
2007-03-05 01:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through that phase a couple of times - both of us ended up in the hospital, or the police station, or my in-law's place..... our marriage is still happy. Weird huh.. The children always calms us down. They haven't any clue about our fights but just by thinking about them, their smiles, laughters, that's keeping us together.. By the way, what I believe - I don't like to be looked down upon - guys, husbands, whatever! They've got no right to abuse us (unless we're in the wrong; really wrong)! You should stand up for yourself! If it's really bad - police protection's the answer. But keep in mind - we women have to be strong. Both physically and mentally. Modernism. We have our rights too. I mean no matter what also, a husband is always a husband; someone who you'll look up to, a shoulder to cry on, your partner, your lovelife, respect, but in such cases, you cant be weak ok? Chin up. Find out whats the cause. Work it out. Easy for me to elaborate all these, but I know its hard for you. Chin up. Be strong.
2007-03-05 02:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ainz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need to leave. Call the police, and get a restraining order. You have to have self esteem and KNOW that you are beautiful, strong and you will love again. That is what makes a lot of women stay. Bur no amount of money or love or whatever he will claim to have, is worth you getting beat. If he did it once he will do it again. And you need to leave him before one of you ends up dead.
2007-03-05 02:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nubian Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the answer would be to stay with him. Leave before you are beaten bad enough to be hospitilzed or sent to the morgue.
2007-03-05 01:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave, try to get him individual counselling as well as marital counselling. If he wants help, it can work for men with these sorts of anger issues. If he doesn't get professional help, don't fall for the 'I'm sorry I won't do it again' line. Keep yourself safe. If he doesn't want to get help, find a way to end the relationship.
2007-03-05 01:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are into all that drama and into all that SM stuff, stay. If you are a person that has a half healthy mind you would leave. Case solved. How am I the one to decide what toots your horn?
2007-03-05 01:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it as assault (file a police report).
Move. Change your phone number to an unpublished one.
Get a restraining order.
Consider getting a divorce.
Depending on the kind of assault, it may be a felony, and it is debasing, dehumanizing, and thoroughly unwarranted.
Good luck, and peace.
2007-03-05 01:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Don M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋