I am having the most wonderful relationship with this man who is 20 years older than me. I ma 32, he is 53. Of course i am confused since i did not expected God send me a man his age. We are soul connected, great communication and chemistry, sex is incredible, i mean beyond believe. Last night we went to the Opera and i could see people looking at us. I felt a little embarrased since they might be thinking i am a gold digger. We are so happy, but...i do not know. What will happen in 10 years when i am 42 and he will be 63? Should i live him even if i feel this great with him??
2007-03-04 17:28:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it matters, the age gap but if you are really happy with him now then stay, you can't predict what is going to happen. Be fair to him and be less selfish, the age gap is there, work it! 10 years down the road is still very far off so why bother now when you are obviously on cloud nine with him? I say enjoy yourself with him and who cares if people are looking, people always look and pass judgements, what matters is your own happiness and since he is happy with you too, then nothing is wrong.
2007-03-04 17:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Carrine G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 20 year age gap would be a lot if you were in your 20's and really didn't know what you wanted out of life. But you are a 32 year old grown woman. I don't see a problem with it in any way. If he is good to you and you love him.....nothing at all wrong with that. One thing though....stop sleeping with the guy!!! If you are serious about him....and you hope for marriage someday....he needs to be able to respect you. Tell him this and see what happens. It could be he is using you because you are young. Stop sleeping with him and find out! Good luck to you.
2007-03-04 17:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by youizbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having a very American cultural question. This is not even a question in 99% of the countries of the world, and is very natural and normal. Woman who can have children will always be attracted to men who can provide, and vice-versa. So there is a natural reason for an age difference such as this, particularly because women are thought to mature more quickly than men. (In the U.S. right now it seems that neither are acting very mature at all at the moment!)
Doesn't matter unless you make it matter. End of story.
2007-03-04 17:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, 20 years is quite a difference, but at your ages it could ber okay. If you are having fun and things are right, just relax and enjoy! Oyu'll get an idea of what it would be like if you were white and dated a black man, or if you were gay and had a girlfriend. You will get looks - just ignore them. People are judging you and they don't have any of the facts. It's a form of prejudice and it comes from ignorance.
2007-03-04 17:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi U should n you must. Dont make a mockry of your relaton.Very difficult to get sincere persons like u both are. Are you American. If u need some suggestion better send me an email from yr personnel id. Be kind to the man with whome u are happy
2007-03-04 17:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If age is a problem, it is the problem of other people, not you. If your happy and your guy is happy, what has age got to do with anything........ let other people worry about their problems and you be happy in your life. They may have been looking at you thinking - WOW what an attractive couple, who obviously adore eachother, why be on the negative, love works in mysterious ways, celebrate and enjoy your love together, be happy x
2007-03-04 17:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by kiwidave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me, of course you dont leave him! If your happy sweet heart stay put. God only knows who youd get next!And yeah, what does happen, when hes 63 and your with him,is he going to explode or something,lol, think being with a 33 yr. old means you'll never find yourself next to a 63 yr. old man some day!? LOVE, ENJOY LIFE!
2007-03-04 17:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by someoldguy77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him ASAP...
Get a good Pre-Nup such that you are protected & cared for
in the event of divorce or death...
If he has no assets and is 53 then get away from him and
find someone else....
2007-03-04 17:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You plan on loving him for just ten years.? Be with him until he is of no use to you? You sound like a real catch
2007-03-04 17:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,,,,if everything is as great as you say it is,,,I'd hang onto him and not worry about the age difference. Hey !!!!!! there is 16 years difference in my wife and my age so I say go for it.....We have been married for 34 years.......
2007-03-04 17:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋