My friends husband is currently stationed in Iraq. She lives with her mother (with her children) until he ocmes home. He has been there since they got married. He does not send her any money to take care of bills and she currently isn't working. Does he have a obligation from the military to financially support her while he is away? I say yes but she said he can if he wants to, but he said he doesn't HAVE to.
2007-03-04 17:25:54 · 5 answers · asked by Nubian Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He told her the reason he will not send her money is because she needs to get a job and also because they had no bills together before they got married (although they both had separate bills).
2007-03-04 17:48:09 · update #1
Yes he does have that obligation speaking as an Army wife and as an Air Force brat. She needs to contact his commandor, or who ever was left in charge when he left for Iraq and let him/her know what is going on.
2007-03-05 10:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While they're married no, nothing can require him to actually spend his pay on his family whether they are together or not. But it doesn't exactly sound like a healthy relationship to me and it's not one I'd want to stay in.
I do know of cases where the couple was divorcing and through the process he had to hand over his BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing) to his still spouse because that money is for the dependent's housing.
2007-03-05 11:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer this definitively, but my top guess is that the military FROWNS on that type of thing. Your friend needs to call around to find the answer to this. Incidentally, if he has been in Iraq the whole time they've been married and won't give her any money, this is NOT a good omen for the relationship...
2007-03-05 01:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not military required no.
The military does not care if they have a family or not. They clearly state that the military comes first and if your family gets in the way tough. Whent the military member leaves on duty, it is the other partners responsiblity to take care of all aspects of household.
Military relationships and marriage are extremely difficult. I was married to one and I have never seen a larger group of woman divorcing men ever. Its very difficult relationship to have and I give credit to those who can make it work.
2007-03-05 01:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he does, unless they made some type of arrangment to save the money or something like that before he deployed, is she telling you the truth, if she is, alls it takes is a phone call to her husbands units family support group, they can take it from there, i know personaly a friend of mine that i was with in afghanistan with did this to him and he had to go up before the 1SG, it was all untrue though, she was spending the money on other thing s, but she can call the unit hq, also are the children his or hers? he is also responsible for them too, to a point, i suspect that if he loves her, he would take care of her and her children, and wants to save the money for when they return to move out of the mothers house, he only gets 200 a month in casual pay so the rest goes to the bank
2007-03-05 02:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋