What's your opinion on teen dating?

Question

My mom seems to be sick at the thought of it [In fact, just the thought of liking each other], but I see kids dating school so often I wonder is it normal or not? What's your opinion on teen dating? [I'm going to be in high school next year.]

Answer 1

Hmm, I didn't really deeply into this subject until I read all of the answers and both sides are right. There is one side that says that teens are too young to know love and must focus on their schoolwork. Then there's that other side that explains how teens need something exciting in their life.

I agree with both sides but then again, I would hate to be too focused into my schoolwork that I'm antisocial or be so into boyfriends that I flunk a grade or something. So what I'm saying is that it all depends on how far you take the matter. It'd be best for a teen to have a boyfriend/girlfriend who still thinks about their schoolwork.

You must balance your social life with your school life. Dont put too much weight on either side.

Answer 2

Well, it's not really abnormal or normal! It's up to the individual person.

These people here, lol, I laugh at "I won't LET my kids date til they are this and this age" Ahhhh ... it must have been a long time ago for you!! Don't you remember, if a kid reaalllyyy wants to do it, they will.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with innocent relationships in middle school. I don't see anything wrong with alittle less innocent relationships in high school, either. I mean as long as you are not crossing lines like having sexual relations or being led into drugs/alcohol -- there is nothing wrong with dating.

And highschool relationships.. so what if they aren't life-long or past highschool.. Honestly -- SO WHAT??? Are ALL relationships we have meant to last our entire lives? No!

We're "testing out" people when we date .. EVEN ADULTS ARE! -- and I think dating in highschool is a good way to find out what sort of guys you prefer. And also great practice for social skills and communication with the opposite sex -- help prepare you for dating that is "more serious" later on.

Answer 3

Well, I don't date because why go through all the distraction and heart break? It's not likely that you'll meet THE guy the very first time, but if you do great! But even if you do, why go through all that worry about emotional and physical pleasure? You're just getting into high school next year, and believe me, it's not easy, so just focus on your education. It's better if you wait until you're at least 16-17. Yeah, I probably sound like your mom, but your mom is right for now.

Answer 4

I wish I would have waited. In the 7th grade I had my first so called boyfriend and found out he really liked my best friend so he brought my self esteem down and caused every guy at my school to call me a h*e because I wouldn't kiss him. Then I became suicidial and had a horrible year. My opinion is you guys are too young to understand what a relationship are and its really just fun and games so just enjoy being a teen. I mean I got pregnant at 17 had him at 18 I don't regret it. Only thing is I wish I waited til I was mentally ready for a boyfriend. At that age guys hormones are so jacked up they just want sex. Well, good luck

Answer 5

i'm 13. team - 12. Why? : as a results of fact your which comprise your persons and that's like basicly awesome out no longer fairly relationship so no stress in simple terms acquaintances :D Double date : 13 like while your on the brink of your 14 bithdday or no longer real once you turn 13 Why?: as a results of fact once you compromise into start up 13 then such as you and your bff can double date and it is generally relaxing ( double dated 4 timesbefore lawlz.... solid situations) single : 13 close to 14. as a results of fact........ onyl if yournot a teeny bopper and are literally inerseting in no longer lifrting in simple terms having a solid candy boyfriend. decide for it. plenty love xx kitty

Answer 6

I honestly wasn't even aware it was such an issue before reading this....

... Everyone dates in highschool. No one stays together forever (except the rare sickening couple who have a baby at 18 and move into their very own trailer at 19... *gag*)

Anyway, yes, it's very normal. Adults who say it's wrong obviously don't remember what it's like to be a teenager. Teenagers are PEOPLE... they have feelings, needs, desires, blah and blah. Are they immature? Yeah, most. Irresponsible? Generally, yeah. But so are most 25, 30, 35, etc... year olds.

It's just dating. People enjoy it. It gives you something to be nostalgic over when you go through your mid-life crisis.

Answer 7

My opinion is that kids should stop pretending to be grown ups and learn to be friends with the opposite sex because those kind of kids tend to be the happiest in their relationships in the long run.

Is that realistic? Heck no. I understand about hormones and the excitement of how new it all is. So while I think it is not ideal, I also know it is gonna happen! I also think, though, that if you are not ready, then you shouldn't do it just because a lot of other people are doing it. I didn't date until college, and a lot of people don't date until they are older teens/in college, too. The media hypes it up a lot.

Answer 8

I think its okay. I mean when I first started dating at the age of like 14, my mom and dad hated it, but they got over it. The reason they hated it was because they were scared I was going to get raped, or used, or have my heart broken. No mom or dad wants to see that happen to their children. Sometimes parents need to just realize that their children are growing up, becomeing more independent, and realizing who they are...And it's hard for parents to let go sometimes.

Answer 9

MY parents let me begin dating at 16, but I had boyfriends before that. MY mom would get so mad if she even saw me holding hands with a boy. It is normal for your mom not to want you to grow up...but do not try and grow up too quickly. SHe will get used to the idea of you dating eventually, and she'll get over it.

Answer 10

my parents aren't too for it, but when i was in public school, i saw a whole lot of stuff. People dating and doing all types of other things. i didn't really have an issue with it (of course i was never part of the "dating" crowd, my parents had that school on lock) I think it's okay as long as it doesn't go too far.