I just found out my sister in law is with a married man...now the real problem is I am friends with his wife! They have two kids together and one on the way. I can't believe she thinks he wil leave his wife for her... I'm wondering if maybe I should just cut contact with my friend because I DO NOT want to get involved...I don't think I can be around my friend knowing that my sis in law is with her husband behind her back. No one knows that I know... Any advice??
2007-03-04 17:07:51 · 11 answers · asked by wilsonfromthefrew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should keep it to yourself.They have children together and one on the way.Obviously,they arent' planniing separating any time soon.So,it will be a short affair but in any way you look at it an affair.If no one knows but you,then you have to decide if you can live with yourself knowing all this.I sure wouldn't want to be put in that position.It may go away but the past always comes backt to haunt us.Take care and i hope this helped.
2007-03-04 19:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong for your sister-in-law to put you in this position anyway. I am sorry to say that anyone who knowingly tries to break up a relationship/partnership, is worth nothing to anyone. You have to realize that I have been on the side where everyone seemed to know that I was being cheated on and no-one told me anything.
If you don't tell the wife, it will eat at you. It will be even worse if you don't tell her and she finds out that you know. Then there is no question you have definately lost your friend.
If you are having problems with it being a family issue. I hope you feel confident enough to consult your husband and see what his thoughts and feelings on the matter are.
2007-03-04 17:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by the_babyangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard for you. Even if you tell her, you're stuck in the middle. If you send her a letter and she finds out, you're her sister in law, she may accuse you of knowing all the while and even plotting this against her. You should talk to your sister-in law and let her know that you have intentions of telling your friend. Or talk to the husband instead. Don't walk away from your friend, it's not your fault. Good luck.
2007-03-04 17:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no advice actually but maybe your sis in law isn't expecting him to leave his wife maybe she is just attracted to him and like getting laid by him when ever she can. I would just pretend i don't know and go on with friendship as normal unless she was a really, really close long time friend then i would say something so i guess i did have some advice.
2007-03-04 17:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this,but your in a hard position. My advice is don't get involved only cause then your gonna be sitting on a double edged sword, my question to you is Does your sis in law know that you know she is w/your friends husband? If so then she has no busness putting you in that type of situationand that position, if not then you should tell your sis in law you know and c what happens from there good luck to you
2007-03-04 17:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by VIRA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad situation....Where is your brother .does he know his wife is cheating? Look at all the relationships being ruined by your sister in law......Why isn't your brother wise to this? My advice is talk to your sister in law, tell her she;s complicating a lot of lives. ..she is hurting 6 people and you need to say something....Even if you walk away you will know the truth......Then when the truth comes out you'll catch hell anyway for not saying something....You are damned if you do and damned if you don't .....I'd tell someone ,your sister in law doesn't respect you....She knows that you know what she;s doing.....
2007-03-04 17:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with sadgreene and say that maybe you should send an anonymous letter, but maybe after she gives birth (you don't want to feel responsible for any complications that may come up).
I know that this may sound hypocritical, but its best to pretend you don't know and not tell anyone you know. If you approach his wife directly, she may not believe you and may think you are trying to start trouble between them.
2007-03-04 17:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Orchyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are kids involved, it is your moral duty to tell the wife. She needs to decide what legal steps she needs to go through for the kids. Also, she needs to be aware that he could be bringing home STD's. Also....woman to woman.....if it were you....wouldn't you want to know??? Be a REAL friend, and tell her.
2007-03-04 17:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by youizbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know the truth after all it isnt you who is fooling around with her husband . .my opion?
2007-03-04 17:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send your friend an anonymous letter...
2007-03-04 17:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋