How to help my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend smokes marijuana and he has for two and a half years and he wants to give up and he doesn't know no how to give up cold turkey he has tried it and he gets really mad and he starts throwing up everything he eats!! what would be a good way to give up?

Answer 1

I think the biggest thing to keep in mind is that marijuana is not physically addictive by any means. The unfocussed effects can be lasting, and there can be very minor withdrawl effects sometime after quitting, but usually will consist of minor headaches, and not for upto a month after quitting. Before that, THC is still prominent in the system. Again, though, these effects are acute if present at all.

I would imagine that anything to do with vomiting would simply be placebo effect, as marijuana itself is not linked with such withdrawl symptoms. Being tempermental makes sense due to the large effect that THC has on the chemical makeup of the brain. I won't spout off a bazillion chemical names or makeups, but it's something that will simply take time to get past.

Really though, there's not a good way to give it up beyond cold turkey. Anytime the drug enters the system it stays there, and even if he cut back to once every two weeks, not a day would go by that THC wouldn't be present in his system. In that respect, he hasn't really quit at all.

If he's having serious problems, he may consider seeking counselling. I don't necessarily mean N.A. meetings, but some sort of therapy may be necessary.

Answer 2

The throwing up could be related to something else. Pot is not physically addicting, only psychologically. His brain is causing the withdrawal symptoms, not his body. Let me explain it this way: I'm a chronic pain patient; I take Oxycontin every day. Because I have been taking it for 8 months now, if I just didn't take it for a few days, I would be very sick from withdrawals because the narcotic has caused changes in my central nervous system and brain. (Just a note, that doesn't make me an addict, it makes me physically dependant on the drug. Addiction is a behavioral issue-- continuing to do something, even when doing it causes negative effects and/ or harm to the person doing it, their life, or those around them.) Pot does not cause those types of changes in the CNS or brain, so the "withdrawal" symptoms are psychological. He could try cutting back a little at a time, tapering down his consumption every day until he isn't smoking any. That way, he can overcome the psychological withdrawals.

Answer 3

You aren't going to like the answer but often times it takes the painful truth to help someone.
It sounds like to me he does indeed have a serious problem and there may be more to this than "weed".
At this point I think a detox facility is in order because it sounds as though to go cold turkey is going to do more harm than good.
I have been a member of AA now for 10 1/2 yrs and our AA Club also has NA members and I am here to tell you that this kind of behavior is not common in abrupt cessation of "weed" consumption unless there is something else going on.
This whole situation could get out of hand and you need to get your boyfriend to call you local NA and talk to someone in your area that will know who to contact other than a hospital.
Course if he wishes to continue what he is doing,he can avoid the symptoms you are talking about by picking the "weed" back up but eventually it WILL catch up with him and the next time he wishes to quit it could cause him ever greater problems than he is having now because addiction never gets easier,it ONLY gets worse.
Just by calling one of your Local NA places,you don't have to tell them more than your first name,calls aren't traced and you don't have to make any committments but it may be the best thing ever done for boyfriend.
Don't worry about the time and don't worry about bothering anyone. . . this is what we do and this is what we give back to an organization that has helped us get our lives back and in order. . . we do it willingly to those who are serious in seeking help.Many places have 24/7 volunteer lines and some places are open 24/7.
PLEASE,PLEASE,PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE in getting him this help IF this is TRULY what he wants because to seek help IF he isn't serious or IF he doesn't really want to quit because it won't work until he IS REALLY ready and willing to give it up.
I have learned ALOT about addiction whether it is alcohol or drugs while being in AA over the past 10 1/2yrs and I am here to tell you that the 3-4 answers prior to mine are BUNK and UNRELIABLE but it's up to you to decide who to listen to and I hope you pick the right one.
You can email me or IM me further if you wish and if I am online I will answer you immediately.Keep in mind I may not say what you want to hear but I WILL tell you the TRUTH.

Answer 4

Slowly. Does he smoke alot through out the day? If so have him make more time in between smoking it. until he cuts to maybe a hit a day and then eliminate it every other day. Just slowly but he has to really really want to quit.

Answer 5

I don't know but I hope you find the answer.
Why is your name Coke?

Answer 6

its a wonder why you're staying with him, is he a life for you.