Please help me with something?

Question

I need to tell my mom that I am dating a guy, my age, my school, nothing out of the ordinary. I have never dated a guy before, I am in 8th grade. It is nothing serious, we have not even kissed or anything. He just puts his arm around me and we talk and stuff. She thinks that I really want to get revenge on him for some weird thing that he did a while ago though. I have no idea how to tell her that I am going out with someone! There are other people going out in my grade and stuff, more serious than me, but I have no clue how to tell her. My mom and I are REALLY close, so I tell her almost everthing, how do I tell her that I am now going out with a guy?

No, I am not planning on going anywhere outside of school with him. You guys are good!

Answer 1

Sit her down and tell her you want to have some girl talk about something important. I am assuming this is your first boyfriend, so share how excited you are with her. I am sure she will actually be very happy and excited for you. Let her know that there is nothing serious going on to reassure her and ask her for some advice it will make her feel more at ease that you trust her.

Answer 2

I think that since the relationship between your mom and you are really close, I think that works towards your advantage.

I imagine you have had serious conversations with her before as you two are so close. Just take the steps as you would the other times, and say "mom, remember this guy? will, he (or you) asked out and nothing but original dating, and thought to ask if you were okay with it"

let your mom had a decision, but let her know you already made yours. parents like at least they have some sort of say and involvement. She will ask questions and some might upset you. But to show her you are ready to date, you must be mature and not be upset at these questions. She is looking for maturity and responsibility in your answers.

Answer 3

Just tell moms you really like this guy. Tell her just as you have explained it here, reassuring her that it's not serious, just fun and a part of growing up. It's only natural to be talking and walking and "stuff." Surely your mom will remember being in eighth grade and feeling butterflies when a certain boy came near. Ask her to tell you about her 8th grade boyfriend. Tell her you want to stay close and let her give you feedback about boys and everything else going on in your life. I wouldn't call this "dating." That might put her off, but I would tell her I liked him and enjoy the girltalk!! Have fun!

Answer 4

Congratulations! You have a relationship with your mom in which you can tell her almost everything!

You shouldn't damage that relationship by keeping something so important from her. Your mom loves you, and apparently you love and respect her: a great help for those later teen years.

If it bothers you to keep this from her, you should ask yourself why. Clear this up for yourself (soon, like today) and go let your mom in on it.

Don't start your teen years off by being secretive. You want your mom to trust you and the decisions you make your entire life, so that she can support you, and give you direction, and assistance.

She can't do this if she doesn't know what's going on in your life. Even if you are a bit uneasy about what she will say, don't keep it from her. Keep the lines of communication open, by being open & honest. This way she will trust you and trust your decisions, because you have proved yourself to be worthy of her trust. Trust is difficult to regain once it's lost, so don't let that happen.

The suggestion to have a girl to girl talk is great. Take a few deep breaths, and tell her in a calm a simple way what's going on.

God bless you, and I hope everything goes tremendously well.
Hope this helps.

Answer 5

first of all, are you actually going anywhere outside of school with the guy? If so, then she is bound to find out one way or the other so it is best to be honest. plus, for your safety she needs to know who you are with and where at all times (at your age). now, if you two are just hanging out at school then you should tell her exactly that. thats normal at your age and she shouldn't have a problem if your honest about it. the problems arise when you start sneaking around. most parents find out these things anyway so dont break that trust - it will only make things more difficult for you in the long run.

Answer 6

I remember being that age..."going out" with a guy. Now it seems kind of silly looking back on it. It really isn't that big of a deal, since all you are really is friends. Have you ever brought up the possibility of have a boyfriend before with your mom? If yes, did she seem okay with it? Just tell her that you like this guy and you've been hanging out with him at school.

Answer 7

I would just be honest and tell your mom pretty much what you just said. I would say hey mom I'm going out with *his name* its nothing too serious we don't kiss or anything. As you know he's my first boyfriend and I just wanted to share with you because I have nothing to hide, so how do you feel about it? << I would say something like that.

Answer 8

Well you're going to have to tell her eventually. Unless you like having to keep something from her.

But have you ever asked about her thoughts/feelings on you dating? That could be a smooth transition to a conversation about dating and then bringing up that you've met a guy and he asked you out and etc and go from there.

Answer 9

There is nothing to tell her. First of all you are in the eighth grade,
you don't know what going out is. You need to concentrate on your schooling and get your mind off them boys.

Answer 10

try inviting him over and spending time with you & your mom at the same time. before or after you can tell your mom. if you guys are close she should understand. :)