How do I get sex?

Question

I am wondering how I can convince my husband that we should have sex more often. I would be happy with every day, mabye more. He really thinks that I am insane. I am not insane.

Can anyone recommend a class, author or lecture that helps couple connect on a better level?

Answer 1

Tell him...In this house we have sex everynight at 10 pm!!! with you or without you!
I hope this cheer you up at little at least since i do not have the answer.

Answer 2

I recommend the BETTER SEX video series. They are for married couples and are educational (not pornos). Also, there are books of sex ideas where you rip out one each week and they have coupons and stuff. These are fun and friends of ours loved them to spice things up a bit. You can get them at a bookstore like Barnes and Noble. Just so that you know, you aren't alone. There are plenty of women out there that wold like sex more often. Our first thought is to think there is something wrong with the guy, since our society deems this as abnormal. However, everyone and every marriage is different. Maybe you could set up a date night where it's kind of scheduled in. Sometimes once you start something then the other person gets into it anyway. Forget about him having to initiate it too. It doesn't matter who initiates as long as you both enjoy it. Maybe you two don't need to actually have intercourse either- you could compromise by other forms of pleasure. Also, you could have his testosterone levels checked. My father-in-law has very low levels and receives supplements for this (it also affects your metabolism and heart). Good luck, but don't that you are insane or that your husband is gay or cheating or that he doesn't think you're attractive. While these are slight possibilities, most likely he's just getting a bit lazy and you both need to communicate and try different choices.

Answer 3

Well how often are you having sex? I had an ex who said we could only have sex every 7-10 days, so that took out an entire week for my period. He said that was not all a relationship was but I liked it and still do. I have a very healthy sex life now but even at times we are both tired and just don't have it as much as we did. Talk to the man, see if you can come to a happy medium because it does not make a relationship but it can hurt one a great deal.

Answer 4

This is ironic, most men love sex.. But there may be a problem with his emotions.

How do you get sex more often, you should talk to him more. Say sexy things like I love you, let's go make love.. OR even I need you to make me feel good...( quoting Halle Berry from Monster's Ball to Billy Bob Thornton..love scene)

Never-the-less, sex is a part of marriage. It is what God calls consummation.. an agreement.

If he is not willing to make love then as I said there may be an issue.. but you can solve that.. Flirt with him. When he is in the kitchen blow kisses and smile.. smell good..

I believe that men are enticed by what they see and women are enticed by what we hear... Well it appears that we may have to switch it around a bit..

He will come around and soon the sex will be great and you both will be happY. Get-it-going.. Try some Marvin Gaye Let's Get It on or play his song, "Sexual Healing"...

Take care and get cute for him... Buy him some nice boxers, spice it up.. You can do it!

Answer 5

Well, I was in a similar situation and what I did was tell my partner that I missed him, and would tell him often that because he is so good sexually, I can't get enough of him. I had started out on completely the wrong foot by assuming he wasn't attracted to me, and that there were problems. The fact of the matter was he was just in a phase in which he wasn't as interested in sex, and assumed I wasn't either. I then started to nag him about it constantly, which turned him off. When I started expressing to him how good it made me feel to be intimate with him, and that not only did it feel good physically, but emotionally as well, he started coming around. I would often come up and give him a hug or a kiss for no reason. If we were in public I would whisper something naughty in his ear. I no longer nagged him, I didn't assume he had to please me. There were many times when we would be in bed, and I would simply start masturbating, while touching his chest, or neck. He never ignored that....I hope this helps!

Answer 6

Are trhere some 'issues' in your marriage? Some outside factors could contribute to his lack of desire. Was he from a broken home such as divorced parents, single mom etc.
Keep talking to him and tell him how often you would enjoy making love with him. DO NOT threaten to have sex with someone else.
You may want to consider a marriage counselor. An independent professionally trained and educated person can really help both of you with the sex issue.

Answer 7

First you need to find out what is his problem, if there is a problem? Then if you all was sexually active before you got married, you tell him whatever it took to get you, will take to keep you. If there's a problem then you all need to address it together. At the same time, if he doesn't want to fix the problem and just have sex to shut you up, you need to let him know that you don't have pity sex. It won't be good and you will feel even more sexually frustrated then you already are. Don't threaten him with finding sex elsewhere. That just wouldn't be wise and then that shows how shallow you are being. Work it out, by being mellow and soft hearted along with understanding, that's if you don't feel like he's cheating.

Answer 8

This can be a real problem in a marriage. You might consider couples therapy. Both of you should get on the same page when it comes to something important like when you have sex. There are answers and it may take some work to find them but it will be worth the effort. Good luck .

Answer 9

I once heard a man talking to a group of friends and he made the comment, if you have Sex everyday you will get tired of it. There may be some Truth to this. Me and my man Both have a high Sex drive, but 2-3 times a week is enough for us Both. If I feel a "NEED" between times, I will simply use a good Vibrator. Maybe your man is tired after working all day. Get you a good Sex Toy to tide you over until he feels up to having Sex. Type in your browser www.Ginas Alltime Pleaser.com. Its one of the best Toys available...Enjoy

Answer 10

If you think that a class or lecture will help make your sex life more active Then you are only fooling your self. If your husband wants to have sex with you constantly then it will be because that is what he wants as well as you not because some class/lecture told him that he should. It sounds like the sexual chemistry between the two of you is dead & gone.
You/he needs to realize that it is best to compromise with eachother.
Good Luck
And
God Bless

Answer 11

How old are you? How old is your Husband? my wife is 31 and just starting her sexual prime. As men, we peak at around age 18 if everthing i've heard is true. Right now, my wife's sexual appetite seems insatiable. I have no problem rising to the occasion and taking one for the team so to speak, but it is a little intimidating, and it sometimes leaves me feeling that I am unable to satisfy her. When I just don't feel like getting it on, I will make sure she is satisfied by other methods. This usually leads to me getting turned on and we end up having sex anyways.