I used to roam with my one boy friend. Then i fell in love & he also loved me. We entered very close relation. But after someday i knew that he was married. Now he is telling me to continue this relation. I can't accept this matter but I can't forget him. Because i love very much. I know there is no future in this relation but i am helpless. Please give some positive opinions.
2007-03-04 16:33:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, sweetie, there is no positive opinion if you stay with him. You really do need to end this, even though it will be very difficult to do so. You deserve to find a man who can and will be honest and faithful to you and you only. You deserve LOVE!!!! What this man right now is giving you is mere lust. If he truly loved you, he would NEVER have hurt you like this. Your best option: End this, give yourself some time to grieve, and keep on going about your life. The heartache from this will stay with you for a while, but it won't last forever. You can and will find a man who will love you completely, but it isn't the one you are with right now. Positive opinion on leaving the guy: There is a man for you out there, and when you find him, you'll be so happy, you won't be able to imagine having stayed with this guy who has lied to you and used you!
2007-03-04 16:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dorkapotamus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dear, to love someone is great but u should know that practical life not so rossy and dreamy. If he didn't tell u that he's married u should ask him the reason. He may have been scared. But honesty is the most essential trait in a relationship.If he says to continue this relationship ask him how will he manage the situation at home. And even if he forces his wife and his family to accept u do u think u can live under such situation?? Remember there's no point of being with someone by hurting everyone else around.Its too selfish. If the man has fallen for u regardless of his wife do think he'll be faithfull to u??
2007-03-04 16:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an easy way to get laid woman like you stupid and still yawnking about the same idiot. You must realize atleast now that you have been cheated right royally and used up by a cunning fellow. You must immediately tell him to get paid for the tracherous behavior by him and warn him that it will cost him dearly. Take an advocates opinion and he will certainely guide you. The most important thing you must do is remove this leach from your life (including thoughts) immediately. Nobody will pity you or even sympethize wit you, because you have simply proven yourself as a easy taxi for anyone to carry. You must atleast remember now that you have violated even simpl rules and in peril. Before the peril becomes a doomsday go get yourself an advocate and psychiatrist for cleansing your sins.
2007-03-04 20:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Loganathan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you only think you truly love him. I am sure if you keep your eyes and heart open that you will find another person to love and love you back. You know you have to get on with your life and forget him. If he truly loved you, he would be with you now and not his wife. Go out with your friends and start ffliting again. You will soon remember how good it is to be able to do that, and it will give you a great boost to your confidence. All the best.
2007-03-04 16:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was no ''wife'' in the picture, I would have told you to follow what your heart says, but now that he has a wife, a family of his own, and this could lead to some disasters in his and your life, I suggest you follow you brains...
Give up. You love him, but you cant help that he lied to you about his marital status. If he could lie in such a big way, he could lie again. I would also suggest that you do a bit of studying on this character. Are you sure he does not love his wife ?? What if he is leading an eternally blissful life with his family, while professing love to you and manipulating you to be his '''spare time'' entertainment ?? Move on, leave him. And you are right when you say that there is no future in this relationship, for him to have lied to you in itself was equal to ditching you, breaking up with you. And try asking him if he will leave his wife for you ? Wil he leave his wife, and marry you ? Its absurd, but it would be interesting to know his reply. Wake up, look ahead...you have a long way to go..it will hurt to stop thinking, perhaps you could change the place you live...for sometime..get away with your friends...
2007-03-04 16:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically when he got married, it should have been over then.. But sometimes our emotions run deep..and last longer. What you have to do is allow time to heal this. What you cannot afford to do is keep talking to him and dealing with on levels that is not healthy for either of you.
He has a WIFE and she is the woman that he chose to marry.. Now please understand that you need to walk away from this one with your head up. Do not take his calls and DO NOT allow him to talk you into things that will not benefit you..
Respect HIS WIFE and allow her to have her husband. He was your friend and use to be more BUT now he is married and that act of marriage separates your relationship.
You two could be friends (maybe) BUT remember he is married now and so anything other than a casual hello is all you need..until you are able to accept his new life and wife.
There is a man waiting out there for you! So please rid yourself of ole 'dude and wait for Mr. Right - who will be just for you!
Move on girl, move on,,,, Besides it's Spring 2007. Time for anew!!
2007-03-04 16:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but I totally agree with luckymrid.
you didn't exactly mention that he told you that he was married. any girl in this situation will be helpless.
god had created everything with some limits, even love. maybe getting too close and roaming with him was the first wrong step you have taken, i reckon.
love is wishing, whom we love to be happy. i beg you please do not continue this relation, because u will be the person in whose hands, your own life is ruined.
try talking to a counsellor or someone whom you really trust.
WISH U LUK..
2007-03-04 20:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by PINKY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really say that there is no future cause you never know what the future brings. If you really love him and he loves you ,ask him why he doesn't leave his wife , maybe there is something is more to it than you know. I'd say as long as you both are happy with each other , keep enjoying the relationship for as long as it lasts. Life is short , don't waste it on silly details.
2007-03-04 16:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand...did he tell you from the begininning that he was married? He should have and shame on both of you for continuing this relationship. This relationship is doomed from the beginning and you should discontinue it immedately before more people get hurt. I don't believe their are positive options. He should not engage in another relationship while being in one already. Sorry
2007-03-04 16:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by schmitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no sense in aching over a man not worth aching over. He lies and cheats and expects you to be okay with that. You deserve better than that. You deserve someone you will be able to spend holidays with. Don't settle for this because you feel he is Mr. Right. He already has a Mrs. Right. You may feel you love him, but you love the man he pretended to be.
2007-03-04 16:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋