I've always had alot of friend boys, not many girls because.. well alot of girls are kinda... evil.
but i missed alot of school and had to go to an alternative school (which is the best thing that's ever happened to me) and since being at this school i have found out alot about myself and who i am. I have also lost everyone who used to mean to much to me, and no matter what i do i can't get them back. i didn't do anything wrong, i just went to a different school. I'm a person who cares alot what others think of me, and friends have always been a huge part of my life... now that i only have one or two true and close friends i feel like i made a huge mistake to make everyone leave me. Is it my fault i lost everyone, or theirs?
ahhhh.
2007-03-04 16:31:33 · 18 answers · asked by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I understand the changing schools thing...I went to 21 schools in 11 years...no, not a military brat, just had a dad who couldn't put down roots anywhere. But the thing is that because of that, I lost my friends as fast as I could make them. As a result of that, I ended up not having close friends, just lots of acquaintences. To this day, I do not know how to make friends, and am uncomfortable sharing my feelings with other women. I've been burned enough times by people I considered friends that I do not confide in anyone other than my husband. It's not your fault that your friends can't accept the person you have become. Don't stop reaching out to people tho. You sound like a great person. Keep discovering who you are, and don't give up on your goals. If you have one or two close friends, consider yourself lucky. Treat them like rare jewels!
2007-03-04 16:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't lose your friends, they lost you! It isn't your fault! The friends you thought you had were "fair weather friends", they are the kind that come and go throughout your life. You will do well to have a few GOOD friends in your entire life. These are the people who stay in your life for 20-30-40-50 years! They are there through good times and bad times, and will always cheer you when you are down and cheer you when you do well. Stick to the friends you have found, and forget about the ones you lost...you are better off. Lots of Love to you.
2007-03-05 00:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Reenie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care what people think of you. Let me tell you something, what you are facing now is 'life'. What are you so worried about? Just make new friends. Nobody left you, with the distance and different locations, you and your old friends must've grown apart. Its nobody's fault. But it could be your's if you don't start facing reality and start making new acquaitances who could eventually be good friends.
About your friends back at your old school.. keep in touch. You could chat, send e-mails, text message them and ask how they're doing. At least show you still care for them as friends no matter where you are. You might not be able to spend as much time together as you used to, but life might just bring you back together. Who knows?
2007-03-05 00:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by sk|TTLes™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the kind of things that happen when you change schools.. people use to be your best friend.. but now that you go to a new school, they feel as if they are wasting their time talking to you.. kids are evil and a lot of them feel that now that you have moved, theres no point in trying to be your friend
its not your fault and you shouldnt feel bad about anything, if those people are avoiding you now, then they werent your true friends to begin with
you will only truly have a few good friends in your life.. recognize who those true friends are, and just get over all the fake ones
2007-03-05 00:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously they weren't really friends at all. I did the same thing and went to another school it's a true test when ur not around them all the time. I lost alot of friends and found out who my real friends were.
2007-03-05 00:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One or two close friends is normal. You are longing for something you never really had. Friends are best measured by quality, not quantity. You can be friendly with everyone, but they can't all be close friends, there is not enough time to invest that much emotional energy in that many people.
2007-03-05 00:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by danny_boy_jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh the damn alternative school is the best thing that ever happeend to you huh? I'm not feeling the love cassie, im not feelin' the love.
:P
And you shouldnt worry about what everyone thinks about you because you put off the best first impression a person ever could, your the sweetest prettiest funniest NICEST, and most amazing person ive ever known :)
2007-03-05 00:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by ThisSongsForYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It seems like me and you are saiing in the same boat ,but i feel being friends is a matter of time anyways since we are feeling lonely hope we two could be gud fnds ofcourse would love to knw abt you if you too r interested mail me at kavyakadiso"yahoo.co.in
2007-03-05 00:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by mahek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault. They are the ones that chose not to hang around you or talk to you anymore. It may have been because of something you did or said, but they are the ones that choose not to be honest with you. Find new friends, either through your true friends or through community events.
2007-03-05 00:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not such a thing as "Friends" anymore. The term has sub-divided into 2 new terms: "Allies" and "aquaintances". Allies are people who take your side and generally have the same interests as you. Aquaintences are people who you just know their names and very little about them, but you talk to regularly, like co-workers.
2007-03-05 00:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋