will first time sex hurt? is the pain bearable? im really nervous about this? plz give me some details so that i'll be confident
2007-03-04 16:30:39 · 8 answers · asked by lovely_gal 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
will first time sex hurt? is the pain bearable? my fiance knows im a virgin and he too is a virgin. we have engaged in foreplay before and he has fingered me. it didnt hurt much and the finger didnt go all the way inside. only half the finger went in. will this make my 1st time act easier? im very comfortable with him otherwise. and he is very understanding. will use of any gel help in reducing the pain?
plz help me. i want to be more confident on this.
Thanks
2007-03-04 16:51:30 · update #1
It's different for everyone. Mine didn't hurt that bad. On a scale of 1-10...10 being unbearable, I'd give it a 2....but that was me. We had also engaged in heavy fingering and masturbation prior which helped stretch things a little. Think of it like this...there are over 6 billion people in the world and most of them were conceived through intercourse so it can't really be THAT bad!
2007-03-04 17:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you aren't "losing" anything. You are GIVING something very special. You both are, actually. And he will probably be just as nervous as you. And afraid of hurting you.
Take your time. Be playful. In your mind, heart and soul feel the bond and connection that you two are forming.
You'll be fine. Congratulations.
2007-03-05 01:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
good for you. i was that age too. it was very painful for me, BUT everyone is different. just make sure you speak to your husband about how you feel. then just relax! the more nervous you are, the more you'll tense up, and that doesn't help. talk to your mom, she'll be willing to share advice, i'm sure. have a great wedding, and a great honeymoon!
2007-03-05 00:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine....im sure he knows your a virgin, just take your time and everything will be fine. as for the pain, i didnt have any pain, i lost my virginity shortly after my 20th b-day, and i felt fine, even the next day i was fine, and he didnt exactly take it easy on me, just try and relax and remember that its the man you love and go with it...
2007-03-05 00:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by ishybug03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts very much for some but the pain is bearable for all. hopefully your husband is not a virgin aswell
2007-03-05 00:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by wq e 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweety, you need to talk to your fiance. He has to understand you are scared.
It's doesn't hurt much at all, if he is careful and considerate.
You can do it yourself by inserting two tampons at once to stretch the area. Use a lubricant.
2007-03-05 00:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey dont worry abt it miss.. the first time is always the easy 1.......... just relax n dont try to be too nervous abt anything.. good luck..
2007-03-05 00:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by SSSting 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
donot b a fool, there will b nothing wrong:
2007-03-05 00:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Khurram 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋