My wife left me about a year and a half ago.She moved back in with her parents and is still there.We did eventually get divorced in the process. I am still not convinced that this is truely what she wanted.I have been there for her financually and every other way you can imagine,but it seemed like it was never good enough.We got back together in that year and a half,even after the divorce,but she never seemed whole hearted about it.I finally worked up the nerve to call it off and she freaked.She told me I was her love,friend,and her everything.That convinced me that maybe she really did love me.Then 3 days before I was to return home from a job she told me we had grown apart.I was crushed again.She suffers from depression and has recently went wild leaving me and many of her friends behind.I feel used and that hurts.I am so mad at her,but I love her at the same time.One of the last things she told me was that she loved me,she sweared.She is on depression medication,but still unhappy.??
2007-03-04 16:16:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, get another girl. I know it sounds like a crazy thing to do. But even though you love her, she is unstable and will never be what you want her to. You'll spend the rest of your life trying to fix this.
Its better to just start over with someone that doesnt need fixing.
2007-03-04 16:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is using you. Even with a breif summary of what happened like you've provided... sometimes as someone looking in from the outside you can see things more clearly. She is using you. The reason it may be difficult for you to see this is because you're so emotionally attached to the situation. Ask your friends to tell you how they honestly see your situation.
There are people that will take advantage of others if they can. If she loved you as much as you love her, she would be with you and not just be taking and taking from you. It's hard to get over someone you love but this relationship doesn't serve you anymore and you need to find another person to connect with. It will be hard to get over it but the first step is to stop letting her use you.
Best of luck!
2007-03-04 16:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, if she gets the proper help for her depression.
I went on a similar streak, and left my husband and children, friends, family and religion.
Then, about a month after the divorce, the new medication and therapy I was in started working and I suddenly realized what a horrid mistake I'd made.
Luckily for me, my husband is a very forgiving man and when I showed true remorse and promised not to put our family through such heartache again, he took me back.
We are much happier now and even trying for another child.
2007-03-04 16:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerrod, it sounds like your ex needs counseling. If she is on psychotropic medication (for depression) she should be seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist. Unfortunately most prescriptions for depression are written by general practitioners, not psychiatrists. She should be seeing a counselor to monitor the effects of the medication and help her learn how to deal with her mood swings. See if she is willing to visit a counselor...and find out if she will visit a couples counselor. Then the both of you can explore your relationship and see what develops. Good luck.
2007-03-04 16:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card every two weeks just saying "hey I love you more than anything in the world" at the same time start dating other women. If she comes around she comes around if not well heck your on your way to a new girl and LIFE!
2007-03-04 16:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding a place that she can go to for help during her depression to get better and work with her to get through this. Things can work out with this and prayers for the better to be the outcome in the end.
2007-03-04 16:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both might be better off just moving on with your life. I know it's hard, but also necessary. It's pretty clear that she is having some major psychological problems and needs more than pills, she needs some serious conselling. further, she needs to do this for herself, and not attach her recovery to anyone else. If she does it for you or even with you, it can do harm to her.
2007-03-04 16:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible...after 18 years I am back with my first husband. We were both unsure of what we wanted in life. It takes years to find yourself..If you don't know what you want or what you need out of life..how do you expect anyone else to. Maybe she just needs to find herself and her independence first but surely hiding out at her parents house will not get it for her.
2007-03-08 09:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you.
It sounds like she really needs to work on herself and what she wants before she can be happy with another.
Your heart is with her, but until she is healed or able to live with herself a pattern will continue.
Its not wrong to love her or to want to be with her, however waiting and continuing to be hurt by her isn't healthy for you either.
Find things to occupy your time and keep yourself happy and busy. If it was meant to be it will work out....just don't hurt yourself waiting for it.
best wishes
2007-03-04 16:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly her despression meds are not working for her. Perhaps she needs another opinion........or at very least a change in meds. This needs to be communicated to her doc.
2007-03-04 16:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋