I met my husband on the internet after a year we got married we have been married almost a year. I do believe he loves me and I know I love him but the problem is he sold his house and moved in my house to be with so he changed jobs went for country to city now hes laid off temporaily and he is always complaining and always talking badly to me sometimes I even cry he controlls me alot and needs to always know who I am talking to on the phone and if I am in the bedroom or a room to long he has to check out what I am doing. He says he hates it here and regrets moving but always saying hes going to pack up and move back but he never does it. I end up sticking up for me and we fight but he always says hes sorry and promises to change but 15 min later the whole thing starts over like hes got a mean twin. I dont want to live rest of my life this way what ideas do you have I should do?
2007-03-04 16:10:54 · 9 answers · asked by wildrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Couples therapy. Personal therapy. You already are answering your own question. You are looking at your future and have decided you don't want it. Okay, try therapy even if he won't go with you because it will help you decide what you really want to do. But definitely, therapy, and now.
2007-03-04 17:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! I was in a relationship with a controlling husband for 12 years I loved him and thought I could change him but I never could.Finally I got smart and left and I haven't been happier.I met a wonderful guy who treats me so good.I'm just sorry I wasted so many years on someone who treated me like crap.
2007-03-05 00:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly advise you get someone to be with you, and tell him he needs to go. If he loved you, he would never treat you that way, and if he gets away with it, he'll only get worse. Believe me, I had a wife do the same.
You need to throw him out, get a divorce, and move on with your life. Find someone nice next time....that should be a requirement.
2007-03-05 00:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't happy tell him to move on,Life is too short and unpredictable to live it unhappily.And you shouldn't have to put up with his mood's.I also met hubby on the net and i moved 10.000 miles to be with him,it isnt easy but after 7 years love still holds out over going back home.Be true to your heart!
2007-03-05 00:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by tuppenybitz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sound like you both need counseling to deal with everything that
going on.. but also you need to look at the fact that he very
controlling and that not a good sign. and the next time he say
he regret moving. tell him to pack his bags and move, next
time call his buff.
2007-03-05 00:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kick him out on his butt girl don't let him take your power that's what he's trying to do,lordie lord if you really love him and want this man to change for the better take him to a christian church every sunday let him listein to the pastor and soon enough thru your love and faith he' will change and so will you good luck and god bless,i know i went thru this for 12 years finally i got him to go to church and i think it's finally working but girl if this man is destroying your peace of mind let him leave believe me it will be for the best.
2007-03-05 00:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
awe....poor thing, I'm sorry you are so sad; he is not balanced.........let him go, kick him out...whatever you have to do...get rid of him! You are worth way more than this...and you will get what you are worth! Hang in there!
2007-03-05 00:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, probably you need to face that your relationship doesn't work. Don't waste your money or time in therapy.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 00:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by noooway 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him! what are you waiting for her? be a superwomen that you can change him? never!!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 00:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋