been w/ the same guy for 7 yrs. enough said.
2007-03-04 15:49:16 · 13 answers · asked by ahh_maine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're been in that one about 5 years too long.
There's really no benefit to him getting married now, is there? I mean, I'm assuming that he's getting sex. You're probably shacking up together. And if so, you're probably doing some cooking, cleaning and laundry.
And the brilliant thing, for him, anyway, is that he doesn't have to make any kind of a commitment to get the perks of a married man. The only thing marriage would mean to him now is, if you ever broke up, he'd be financially liable for alimony and might lose half his stuff, or more.
Sorry, lady, but with this guy, this is probably as good as it's ever going to get.
2007-03-04 15:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeez woman! 7 years? You might want to start dropping hints, such as leaving bridal magazines lying around. Or you could be upfront and ask him if he thinks that the two of you have a future together and if it is so then maybe consider getting engaged. You should definitely ask him if he believes in marriage though. Some people think that it is just fine to live with someone and be faithful to them without getting married, which isn't wrong at all. But if you want to get married and he doesn't then there are some serious things you have to consider before you think about pursuing the relationship. Don't do something rash like getting yourself pregnant an forcing him to marry you (I'm assuming you are of sound mind so I don't think you will do that), since that would only end in terrible troubles. Just talk to him and geel him out, if you have been with him for seven years he might feel like proposing won't be so much of a surprise. But all I can really recommend is having a long conversation with him.
2007-03-04 23:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want a committment. Tell him that you want that "I do." If you guys have been together for that long, that is almost a sure sign that things will work once marriage enters the picture. Take a deep breath, count to ten backwards, and take the plunge! I started dating a wonderful man in April of last year, he just proposed to me last week, and we are going to get married this summer. I know our relationship will last, and if you two have been together for 7 years, I think your's will too.
2007-03-04 23:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by completenerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a toughy. I was wngaged for nine because we were proffessional students - but it totally depends on the reason why you havent gotten married so far. If it is because he isnt the marrying kind, is he the committed kind? Does he do the things husbands do? Is he reliable, honest, loyal, etc. If thats the case, maybe you should not worry about it. Is it that he doesnt want a ceremony (you would be amazed how many guys avoid getting married because the "fuss" scares them)
2007-03-04 23:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years.... Does he talk about it? You really need to think if it's worth saying something to him or not. He should know that every woman wants to get marry one day, not right away of course, but being with somebody for 7 years its a really long time. If you guys live together, he probably got used to it and doesnt feel that you guys need to get married...
2007-03-04 23:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dengosa27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you missed your last boat to go to islands for honeymoon???? he is not interested to do with you and you seemed like.. giving excuses, may be if I did this... maybe ? maybe..words.. circling around you.. and you are in denial.. first change yourself for you. second take a look at yourself what did you have before and now??? third.. chemistry and love still fresh and Lovell?.. fourth?? if you are staying for financially reason.. my dear If I were you I would get out of this.. meet someone will be better then this.. 7 years... count it and do not be in denial .. sorry but he is not going to marry you...you know this... just tell yourself
2007-03-04 23:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by fidalgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, honey. Really depends on how you guys feel, there's is no "proper rule" in relationships. After 7 years, if you feel satisfied with where you are right now, great! If not, maybe consider have a serious chat with him.
2007-03-04 23:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you. Ask yourself....is this relationship just as it is enough? or, do I need a ring and a wedding and a legal agreement to remain in this relationship? If you are looking to marry and he is not willing or able, and that is your ultimate goal, you may need to leave him. If you are willing to remain in the status quo in order to just be with him, then it is n't too long. It all depends on you, girlfriend!
2007-03-04 23:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are looking for the ido, then you should have been gone.
if after 7 years he has not then chance are he never will. so
time for you to make the decision if you want to stay or or wait
another 7 years.
2007-03-05 00:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited for 4 years only because we wanted to finish college first. Unless he has a particular goal you have both agreed to wait for I would be gone. Most men don't ask because they think they might miss out on something better. Or they just don't want to be married. Who wants to be married to someone who asks you because you preasured them? Trust me, your life would suck. Move on and find someone who really loves you.
2007-03-04 23:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Athena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋