i am 21 and have always felt traped in my own body i really want to dress as a woman but my fiance says she will leave me if i do she doesn't understand at all and have tried explaining it but she doesnt seem to hear me what the hell should i do
2007-03-04 15:27:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't make her understand or accept, just like she can't make you be something you're not. Did she know this about you before you were engaged? If so, then it's her problem. You can't go into a serious relationship assuming that someone will change for you. If she didn't know, she's not at fault. She can't help what she can and can't accept any more then you can help who you are.
You may have to take a step back and decide what is most important to you. Is being a woman something that you can walk away from? Is your fiance someone you can walk away from? If the answer to both is no, then which is most important to you.
If deep inside a woman is who you really are, who you've always wanted to be, and your fiance can't understand or accept this, then you might have to make the decision to end it and find someone that can love and accept you for who you really are.
This is a tough situation that you're in, and I'm afraid that there aren't any easy answers. I wish you luck. Just remember, above all, always be true to yourself first and foremost.
2007-03-04 15:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mystical Illusions 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance does not understand in probably the same way that most people do not understand what your issues are.
What you want or need is outside the norms accepted by society and is therefore not likely to find instant acceptance. Every relationship is really a "one off" but the more closely everybody fits inside the social norms the easier it is for two people to understand each other.
You need to be very clear with your fiance what you want and how you feel to give her enough information to decide if she can handle your desires and make the relationship work.
She probably feels uncomfortable that she may have to go shopping with her husband dressed as a woman, have the family visit at Christmas with both of you dressed as women, that their may be other issues than your desire for transvestitism such as homosexuality etc.
You are not unique but definitely not mainstream and it may be difficult for yor fiance to face society as well as come to terms with her own feelings.
2007-03-04 15:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want to do about becoming a woman. If you stay with this person and continue to do as she says, you will be unhappy. Your fiance on the other hand, does not want to be with a woman either, she wants to be with a man, which is what she thought you were when she decided to become involved with you. I think you two need to have a talk and need to make an important decision.
2007-03-04 15:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are one messed up dude, but then that's a whole 'nother discussion in itself. Since you think you are a woman, you might want to dress up and try your luck at attracting a guy. But if you don't have any luck, you might consider staying a guy, cause if you're a halfway decent looking guy, it'd be better to have a girlfriend (?) as a guy than to be a loser as a woman. Does that make twisted sense? Anyway, you are a weird dude. Get some counselling!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-04 15:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is not going to support you then the relationship is not right for you. Start over and find someone new while dressing as a women from the beginning so the girl knows what she is getting into.
2007-03-04 15:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you and she are not compatible. I won't say that I'd be thrilled at my male partner wishing to dress as a woman, but to each their own. If the person, whomever they may be, can't accept you for who you really are, then it's not a good match and you're headed for a life full of misery and unhappiness.
2007-03-04 15:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Michele D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if u want to dress like a women do u have an interest for male gender and if not than maybe u need to date a dike that way u can dress like a woman and she will like a man, and if u are confuse about yourself u are not ready to get married, u need to figure out who u are first, good luck on your journey.
2007-03-04 15:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiancee has a right to break off the engagement if she wishes too....
Not only you are betraying her for your love, but you deceived her into thinking you were... you know, a man....
Then propose and get married, oh I can't imagine what she'd felt after she found out about this (no offense on your part, I respect gays as much as anybody else)
But, yeah, sorry but its your fault that you DECEIVED her...
Hopefully you will learn from this mistake and not do it again....
I'd still say, follow your dreams if it will make you happy....
But look at the consequences....
2007-03-04 15:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make a choice because she is not gonna go for this and I do not blame her. You can either become a woman or be a man you cannot be both. If you girl is not a lesbian she is going to leave you because she was looking for a man and you don't want to be one. Let her go you are only going to hurt her. and you, you need help, serious help.
2007-03-04 15:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That explains the female avatar. Trust me, if you turn into a woman, your fiance isnt gonna put no strap on on and put it in your newly carved coochie, there's freaks out there that will though, go find one of them
2007-03-04 15:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Modus Operandi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋